Whoever quoted "Old Habits Die Hard" really hit the nail on the head.

For a while I felt my DH was doing a lot better with SD(13) when it came to her entitled, lazy attitude and lack of respect/boundaries but lately its been the same story and I'm so frustrated. I'm grieving the fresh loss of my mother so that just makes it all worse.

It is starting to change the way I see him- wheras it used to be a "strong protector" but lately I just view him as a man that gets walked all over and bossed around by a little girl. It does make it difficult to respect him when he won't even hold his daughter accountable to respect him.

This is our weekend with her and three things have really just grinded my gears and the third thing was the straw that broke the camel's back, so I finally said something and I wish I hadn't because the whole conversation was his making excuses for her. He ended it with "You're right though, I shouldn't do that so I'll stop." But I could absolutely tell it was not sincere but I just left it alone because I realized arguing wasn't going to fix it and I can't make him see an issue with any of this if it doesnt bother him enough to change it on his own.

#1- She was on the phone with one of her little friends and walks up to him on speakerphone with her friend and starts poking/teasing him and says "My dad is so gay!" He just laughed along with it. Said "thats just how we ALL goof." 

#2- Let the dog out of her room in the morning and stayed in her room instead of coming down to let him potty when she let him out of her room. She's been told COUNTLESS times not to do this. He defended and said "I told her she could let him down if she hears us downstairs because we'll let him out."

#3 Walks downstairs and first words that come out of her mouth is "You're taking me too volleyball at 1 and picking me up at 2:30 and brining me back here." Even though that was supposed to be her mom's responsibility today. Doesn't ask, doesn't even say it politley, just demands. He goes "Okay."  Then defended it and goes "She didn't mean it like that... she probably had a conversation with her mom and just mispoke and meant to say 'Mom asked if yu could take me...'  Nope...... She knows what she said.

How would YOU feel?

Ugh...