Weekend observations
Shower weekend went great. We all got along and I spent time with ex's family and new family. His step kids were awesome.
long ride there and back. We sightseed a bit. Of course H had to be texting a blow by blow account of every day. The family dinner the night before shower I see his daughter call him right at 7 pm! I think to myself that blankety blank knows what's going on and here we go! He ignored the call. During the shower he was FaceTiming her. Whatever. The ride back home he drove for several hours. He ususaljy never minds.
Yesterday he complained of being a chauffeur. I thought it odd until I heard him apologizing profusely to his D that he couldn't respond to her texts or calls "because I was driving all day."
these apologies literally went on several times yesterday. I heard him last night in the pool voice dictating texts to her about it and how he would call her first thing this morning.
It's gotten better and yet it has not. He no longer speaks on the phone with her when I am present. I do know of all the texting. We literally can't go anywhere without him sharing pics and texts at the moment. I can live with it. But it's a sickness. She is off in her own way too. Your father is away at a shower weekend and you call him knowing he is with his wife at a dinner? Then everyday you talk and feelings hurt when he misses a day???
H said that maybe his D will come around meaning want to be a part of our family. I laughed. He said well we didn't invite her to the shower. I laughed too. She has not seen my son in over 15 years. Met him ONCE. ONCE.
Have a great day everyone.
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I would be upset too
The whold trip he's texting his DD. Mimi Wife. Part of the driving is to spend time with your SO. not texting
He has one foot in
And one foot in an enmeshed relationship with his controlling over 30 daughter. You guys understand because psychologically he is never fully present. And I can surmise that this comes because he does not feel close anymore to me but this has been going on since day one. With a blessed break of many years when she was so angered about our marriage.
You know, I've read your
You know, I've read your posts before and thought that your sd and husband's communication seemed kind of annoying but within the spectrum of normal. But your description of this weekend, especially the desperate apologies, truely highlights their disfunctional relationship.
How would your husband react if you sat him down and tried to calmly point out that his reaction to a few missed messages/calls is a sign of an unhealthy relationship?
This...
...is spot on, BethAnne!
Seems like
It's been going on for years and nothing changes.
Oh yeah, the whole situation
Oh yeah, the whole situation is sick and weird.
He has to call/text/Facetime his 30 plus yo daughter EVERY SINGLE DAY???
And he's on holiday with his wife but still has to carry on with the ceaseless comms with his mini wife?
IMO it's not normal. Those two are sick and enmeshed.
I asked him why
Would my son and DIL invite her? My DIL has never met her and my son only met her once when he was like 13!!
his answer? "You never know, things could change." Said with a straight face.
Anyway I am excited about becoming a granny. Too bad they live so far away. We were already put on notice nobody goes to the hospital. Only once they get home. I am disappointed but totally understand and respect that.
You know this is a sickness
With DH. a morning text is ok. But texting all day and apologizing for not texting because he was driving . Is a sickness. You should take a long look at your relationship. You may need to make an exit plan