Impute THIS. (VENT)
**UPDATE post court: DCSS asked for a continuance. Do you think BM will use this time to get a j-o-b? Will pigs fly out of my butt? **
Court with CA DCSS tomorrow to calculate guideline support and our lawyer has advised that BM's unemployment will likely not be imputed as income as she recieves welfare (she is cheating the system). We have 50/50 joint pysical and are looking at our CS increasing by $1200.00 because the golden uterus feels like she shouldn't need to work. All children are teenagers and there is literally no reason for this human to not have a job. Her income & expense lists $2800.00/mo recieved as "paid by others". Who are the others?! Am I taking crazy pills? Why does the system reward people for being crappy?
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Welcome to my world. I'm so
Welcome to my world. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this too.
For us, BM works as a nurse but claims she only volunteers so she got input at minimum wage. It's all horseshit.
Do we have the same BM? Ours
Do we have the same BM? Ours has basically the same story. She's a single mom/full time nurse when she's talking herself up to her kid's friend's parents and an unemployed CNA when she shows up at court.
Probably, she collects them
Probably, she collects them Baby Daddys! Lol
Kidding... SS18 is her youngest
Yep. BM2 here works for cash
Yep. BM2 here works for cash doing eyelashes and also apparently owns 10 rental properties, however they are in her relatives' names and/or she is hiding the income. She drives only luxury cars, goes on fancy vacations, and has purses that cost as much as 5 months of my mortgage. But she's probably getting a raise, too, though she keeps the kids less than half the time and doesn't pay for anything. This system rewards liars and cheats.
Dear Ladies,
Dear Ladies,
Ah, those many years that my DH paid top dollar in CS while his bone lazy, round-heeled ex-wife worked part-time to better enable her bar/bed hopping! When the children arrived for their week in mid-winter with holes in their ill-fitting boots while BM sported stylish new footwear, my poor husband would nearly tremble with fury.
I learned to push the rage from my mind, along with BM’s penchant for shrieking her demands down the phone in a timbre loud enough to get the neighbourhood dogs howling. The very instant that CS ended, The Screamer (our nickname for the bitch) increased her hours to full time. Truly, these women share a book of rules on how to exploit and torment their ex-husbands (and their new wives/partners). All we can do is take deep breaths and uncork the wine.
That has been a hard and long
That has been a hard and long lesson for me. I can't control or fix this situation. All I can do is my best and live my life right. God will sort it out in the end.
I'm having such a hard time
I'm having such a hard time swallowing this pill. How did you maintain your relationship with DH during that time? The resentment runs so deep for me already and we haven't even made the first new payment yet.
Here in NY
It is hard baked into the system by mandating CS until age 21 with, in all reality, zero exceptions.
We all know if it was the other way around, they would be imputing Biodad's income like no tomorrow.
CS until age TWENTY ONE?!?!
CS until age TWENTY ONE?!?! Oh, man. I guess things COULD be worse.. I am planning on taking a solo cruise for my last SK's 18th birthday.
I plan on ditching them all..
I plan on ditching them all....before they hit 18
Aint no way I can stomach so much money frivolously going out like that
Six months, six days
Until the last of the 3 turns 21. He has been paying CS since 2004 (they separated when the last one was merely a toddler).
But who's counting? I have the final countdown on my workstation. Seems like the "six months" has been on six months FOREVER. Although we are very busy, I swear the countdown has gone BACKWARDS!
Time goes quickly
Yes and the most aggrevating thing about it is that I will be 63 yrs old when it finally ends. I was 42 when I started this journey. MUCH too long!
Wouldn't fly in Ontario!
In Ontario (Canada) the judges seem to share a dim view of those who are underemployed. If you can volunteer, you can work. If you have a degree you SHOULD work. Unless you can prove physical disability, or the need to be a caregive, you're going to get income imputed. Even women who get spousal support are starting to be told that (unless you gave up your career to raise children and support his career), you're expected to become self-sufficient in a reasonable amount of time.
At least we seem to be getting that right on average.
Toxic Troll BM
Gets child support at 347, and it hasnt been reviewed since we got married (she filed for CS about 2weeks after our wedding), and she somehow gets section 8 housing assistance - she has a 2 bedroom apartment in an expensive area beach town, and who knows what else she gets.
Shes forbidden SD17 powersulk from getting a job so she can keep her low income housing. I wonder what will happen - Im holding my breath for maybe a disabled diagnosis so she can keep that apartment.
BM TT managed to get over 21k for a "head injury" from work, so I know she has it in her to somehow get along in her own way...
Wonderful values being passed
Wonderful values being passed down to SD from BM. My condolences.
No you need better lawyers.
No you need better lawyers.
What is this womans education and work history? I'm sorry but unless she is fully disabled then she should be out working.
Her income is allegedly $2800 paid by 'others'
Ma'am with all do respects......shes probably a lady of the night (if ya know what I mean) getting paid in cash and filing not one tax return
She has a GED and a CNA
She has a GED and a CNA certificate that she supposedly hasn't used since 2017.. Says her last job was a cashier at The UPS store, but was laid off in December right before Christmas. 7 months later she just can't seem to find any other jobs, even though she has no disabilities, is able bodied and has reliable transportation. She qualified for a free legal assistance, is on food stamps, section 8 and cash assistance--none of which can be imputed as income. She says she's borrowing money every month from her extended family to make the bills.
DH lawyer is screaming, but California courts love a charity case and the plight of a single mom with a pretty face.
OMG! A complete mess!
OMG! A complete mess! I'm really suprised no lawyer or judge has called her out on her bs and hit her where it hurts....her allegedly non-existent wallet.
My psychopathic deadbeat bd was able to juice the legal system and get free legal aid despite making millions. They don't check income they just take your word and let the taxpayer pay for these wastes of human flesh.
Yeah I'd report her for welfare fraud, etc. and the move to a conservative state that will enforce on that lazy waste of space.
If all else fails hell me personally, I'd actually pay her to take 100% custody since she has no job and refuses to work then she can take care of those kids FULL time.
CS court is always
Held where the CP (90% BM) lives.
Hmmm
Interesting: "Section 8-- can't be imputed as INCOME"
Funny-- some of the latest housing laws ARE calling Section 8 and housing subsidies "income" and that housing providers can't discriminate against that "source of income."
Sounds like yet another double standard.
Tsk Tsk Rags
You are again forgetting the double standard. Courts don't hold BMs accountable and almost always (except for leap years when Haley's Comet shows during a Blue Moon) are given a pass when calculating their (visible) income.
The judge LITERALLY told us
The judge LITERALLY told us that he didn't believe HER facebook posts that she got a job or the pictures on her employers website of her WORKING- she says she volunteers. Duh, that means no income for her!