Ghost Didn't Ghost You All!

OK, maybe I did for a while. But life has been INSANE, and there's been zero action on the skid front. But I felt like popping in and saying hi.

It's been, what, 7 or 8 years since we've heard from either skid. The oldest is now 24 and the youngest is about to graduate HS (or should be, we have no idea). The last we heard from BM was when OSS graduated HS and we (DH and I ) sent him a card. BM sent him a text that basically said the envelope was open when they received it, and if there was any money in it, it was gone. There wasn't, OSS hasn't gotten a penny of our money since he decided he no longer wanted to be a part of our lives, but she was fishing. DH didn't even bother to respond.

We are still estranged from DH's parents and sister. They have yet to apologize for thie behavior was back when we found out YSS wasn't actually DH's, and they're still kissing BM's big white behind for whatever reason, so that's fine.

Perhaps some of you remember my friend Ann,who started dating a man 10 years her junior about two years ago. Well, they ended up getting married, buying a house, and planning for a baby. Less than a year later, that "perfect" young man left and divorced Ann, who is once again single. She says he wasn't ready to be a husband and father figure. I think there had to be a whole lot more to it than that, but Ann's not talking.

We lost our DIL in March 2021- she and BS had been married for a year when she died suddenly of a pulmonary embolism. He's doing much better now but boy, it's been a slog. We also lost my sweet furbaby girl this past April and my stepbrother in May, both also unexpected. We're getting through, though, and looking towards the future. (Hopefully a quieter, more peaceful one!)

I hope you all are getting through the challenges that steplife throws at you, as well as all of life's other surprises, and wish happiness and peace to you all! THis site has been such a support to me over theseturbulent years. <3

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Hi Ghost, thanks for the Ghost-Post!

Im still here, but things are mellow for now. SD24 Feral Forger still has no drivers license and I currently have her phone blocked and social media blocked. Things got nasty last December (2022). SD17 Power Sulk (formerly Munchkin) is less sulky and more with her mother since her mother got signed up for low-income housing and moved into a new apartment in Beach Town with her 20k plus "head case payoff'.

I am SOOOOOOO SORRRRYYYY for your losses.

((hugs))

Ghost!!! drinks

Ghost!!! *drinks*

Why do the Ann shenANNigans not surprise me? Sigh... I hope her son isn't suffering as much.

My sympathy for of all the losses. Your poor BS.

My relationships with all of the skids are really good right now (and I always consider that could change at the drop of a hat). SD29 and SS23 have been estranged from BioHo for 2 years now. Big shocker... I was SD27's MOH! Life still has it's not-so-glowy parts, but is pretty darn good right now..

Greetings, dear Aniki! I'm so

Greetings, dear Aniki! I'm so glad everything is going well for you. MOH, huh? Who would've thunk it?

I remember the Ann chronicles! I am sorry we were all right

I remember the Ann chronicles! I am sorry we were all right about the situaion. How is her son? It sounded like he was the one who was really getting a bad deal.

So sorry about your losses - life can be so unfair at times.

Thank you for checking in. I love it when "old timers" provide updates. I think you have one of the best user names of all time!

Hello! I always feel like

Hello! I always feel like coming "home" to ST now and then, you know? All of you were a great source of support during some pretty rotten times. It seems Ann's son is doing well- he's in high school, playing baseball, doing well overall, though I'm sure the quick exit of his "new father" had to have had its effects on him. Poor kid. Ann's had so many guys in and out of his life.

Ghost!

I hoped you were well!

Sorry for the tragic losses. Glad to hear you have no step-aggro tho!

Ann... whew. I remember those chronicles - I am betting most of us do! Hopefully things are better for her son. I can't seem to find any sympathy for her though...

I do hope things remain quiet for you and your dh.

Here's hoping and praying

Here's hoping and praying that we're on the other side of that hill and it's smooth sailing for a good long while. I think we've earned it!

Nice to see you on here. I

Nice to see you on here. I remember you when I had a different screen name. I remember awful situation with your SS.

I am so sorry about your DIL. My DD lost her DH after only 2 and half years of marriage. It was very brutal. So very sad. My DD found support in several widow/widowers groups. She remarried 5 years after losing her DH. Grief is hard and it takes long. I hope your BS gets a healing and finding support for his pain

Thank you, my friend. BS has

Thank you, my friend. BS has definitely had his moments, but he's seeing the light on the other side. He's working hard, paying off his debts, and spending time with some really good friends who have been so supportive along the way. It's strange to be widowed so young, but there were no kids, thank goodness.

I am so sorry for your losses and for the continued though

fading SKid and BM drama.

Take care of yourselves.

Thank you, Rags.

I am so sorry for your losses

I am so sorry for your losses. In the last year and a half, DH has lost a niece, a nephew, and 2 sisters. Life just doesn't seem fair, at times.

I hope Ann is learning from her experiences and finds someone decent (and maybe not rush into it, this time).

Life is definitely unfair, my

Life is definitely unfair, my friend. That it is. I feel just bombarded by loss lately. Thank God for my DH and a REALLY good therapist! I'm still not sleeping and my heart races whenever my phone rings, I have intrusive thoughts, but those are part of the PTSD I've been diagnosed with as a result of the last 15 months of my life. It's getting better, bit by bit. But it's hard to not be on the edge waiting for the next tragedy to strike.

I don't hold out much hope for Ann, to be honest. She's one of those people who is never at fault for anything, even in part. Having no faults = no reason to change. Ah well. Good Ol' Ann.

Ghost!

So sorry to hear about your DIL. Hope your DS is coping ok, did they have children? Also tragic about your stepbrother and furbaby. You must be reeling!

Chef's 3 ferals are still PASed out --I think we hold the record here-- no contact since 2008/2009 with a failed reunification attempt in 2012.

Pumpkinhead (OSS stb 27) got married and bought a house, probably with his wife's funds as she is listed with her maiden name on the tax rolls and he is listed underneath it (which seems odd even if she kept her surname).

The Animal Torturer (SD stb 25) is working (we think) in medical coding and lives about 7 minutes away from us.

The HousesHitter (YSS 20.5) is still on the payroll (CS doesn't end until 21 here) and we are counting the days... The longest 205 days EVAH! He's supposedly working full time and supposedly living in the Girhippo and StepDaddyBigBuck's downsized home.

My DS, Awesomeson and his bride have 2 yr old DGD which I will be spending more time with this October through next March as Awesomeson has a tour of duty in Saudi Arabia. I'm now semi retired but busier than ever with the rental property and Chef's business.

Chef is still Chef (roll eyes). Most of his family is estranged and we only hear from one of them maybe once a year (when they want something for free).

Hopefully the industrial strength turd polishing is over for Ann. Believe me, having a younger spouse is no treat.

Great to hear your update!

We go back a long ways,

We go back a long ways, thrice! I'm convinced the PAS neve rends. Unless they detach from the lying toxic parent, even as adults they can't see the truth. We're not hsupoer hopeful, to be honest, but I hope things turn around for Dh's sake. And I hope the boys haven't been too damaged by BM and her lies.

So happy you'l lget to spend more time with your DGD. No kids for DS and DIL, but that's a blessing, all things considered. I'd definitely love grandbabies sometime though, hopefully while I'm still young enough to enjoy them! All in all, BS is doing better. It was a shock, to say the least. One minute she was up getting ready for work, the next, she was unconscious. She coded in the ambulance and was pronounced atthe hospital. She'd just turned 31. So unbelievably unfair. And my furbaby on top of that, who was my fur daughter for 16 years... that just put me over the edge. But we're all o nthe mend, thankfully.

hey there, Ghost! So good to

hey there, Ghost! So good to hear from you.

We are skidless in the house now....ASS is living with the Beast, having quit his 100K plus a year job in Texas because his boss was "mean." I hear it is not going well

KarateKid is out of college, has a great job and is just a really great young man.

BabyVoice is a senior in college, with a great boyfriend and a bright future.

Mine - let's see, my DD is now 32 with two lovely little girls and a great husband (yep, I am a Mimi). Thing1 got married last October and is living in Indiana and working in Chicago. Thing2 is a scientist in Virginia and I am heading to see him next week.

As for Ann....I have no words and am not the least bit surprised!

SO glad to hear your skids

SO glad to hear your skids are all doing well! Even the skids... minus the oldest. Can't handle a "mean" boss for six figures a year? I'd like to give it a shot! I'm not sensitive.

Congrats on your Mimi status as well. A lot of my friends are becoming grandparents now... here's hoping my time comes when it's right.

I am not the least bit surprised about Ann. Sadly.

Thanks for the update, Ghost!

Thanks for the update, Ghost! I'm so sorry about your losses.

I'm not sure if you remember my case or not, but after intensive therapy in my family, there is no more mini-wife. I'm DH's priority and I'm being worshipped. SD33, the mini-wife on steroids is no longer a mini-wife at all. She still likes attention but has really calmed down quite a bit. She's a mother now with SGS2. SS31 is getting married next month. DD23 is almost done uni and is working.

I'm not surprised at the outcomes of the Ann Chronicles. I used to look forward to them. LOL

I sure do remember you! I'm

I sure do remember you! I'm so glad to hear the mini-wife in your life reformed.

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