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Submitted by Doublehelix on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 4:15am

I nearly laughed my *ss off today over BM's message to my partner. She wanted to "start a conversation" that if my partner wasn't working, then she wanted to talk about both families moving out of the Bay Area (bc she can work remotely) to a place where "we could buy a house." Obviously she is talking about her and SD in re: to the house, but the way she wrote it sounded like she wanted us all to go in on a house together. Yes, absolutely, bc when deciding where i want to live, my partner's kid's mom is suuuuuper high on the priority list!! As my cousin put it, it's not our fault the Bay Area hates her (she and my partner are originally from Canada) - her husband left her, she got evicted from her previous residence, she had to put her tail between her legs and retract her move-away custody case bc she couldn't handle the cost, that she started!!! (I on the other hand have lived in the Bay Area all my life and firmly rooted here with friends and family and work)

That last piece especially...she dragged us thru the misery of a court case only to be too cheap and have to take it all back. She's not wrong to ask - i know therapists teach us if we never ask how can we get what we want? - but know your audience lady. You lost all privileges of us being accommodating to you

And apparently her ability to work remotely automatically assumes we all can? Is she gonna support all of us? Bc my partner and I are in an industry where working remotely full time is not feasible. So she can start the conversation there, about how she would support this full time sister wife as a lady of leisure lololol

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Submitted by Kes on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 4:25am

It never fails to amuse me, the sheer cheek and greed of some BMs.  As if you are going to uproot your lives, just to accommodate a whim of hers.  She expects the universe to revolve around her every wish, evidently.   

I am waiting, as I fully expect that DH will hear from NPD BM, following our house move to a larger place in the country a few weeks ago, that we should not have bought this house, that DH should have spent the money instead on her and the SDs (who are in their 20s).   I said as much to DH, he said, "even she wouldn't dare" oh well, we will see, won't we?  

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Submitted by shamds on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 6:24am

my husband knows no sex would happen living in same house with bio mum... i’m lucky in my case if bio mum had eldest sd ask daddy if they can all move in with us that hubby would say eff no. He knows i’d get a divorce and he doesn’t want to lose me... so i use that to my benefit!!

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Submitted by ldvilen on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 6:32am

Wow!  For the first time, I'm speechless.  Thought I'd heard it all and now this.  The only thing I will say, however, is that if you posted this on a mom site, such as Circle of Moms, you'd probably have about at least 75% of the BMs saying, "What's wrong with that?"  And, "Why don't you think about it--for the sake of the children?"  I dare say most would love for us SMs to be Sister Wives with BM, with BM in the lead, of course.  Well, toss my cookies!  

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Submitted by Doublehelix on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 11:48am

Barf!!!

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 6:38am

Lol. She can't afford to force a move through the court, so she tries being nice instead. Sure BM, we'll move with you, that's why we were fighting a move in court. 

Does she have a green card? I know the Bay Area is expensive, but so are all the large Canadian cities. 

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Submitted by Doublehelix on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 11:48am

I am the anchor - if she knew anything about me/our household, she would know I'm the one she has to convince. Good luck with that lol

yeah, she's a permanent resident. I wouldn't be surprised if she moved back to Canada one day, but as far as I know, I'm guessing she wants to move to Reno. -__- where her alleged bf lives and where she is spending all her time now anyway. either that or like Potatoville Idaho - you know, somewhere you can get a mansion for cheap.

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 7:08am

I mean I would love to live in the same neighborhood as my exH and his wife- but sure as hell not the same house! What the hell is she thinking???? 
My kids SM and I get along great though! 

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Submitted by Doublehelix on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 11:42am

I have trouble living on the same planet as BM...

in all seriousness though, my sister and her ex live within a mile of each other, the 2 families are really friendly...so i guess it works for some ppl

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 6:35pm

Oh God... BM is the #1 reason I refuse to retire in Kansas. I told DH I have a 1,000 mile minimum to maintain LMAO

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Submitted by susanm on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 8:54am

I believe that the word you are looking for is "No."  It is a complete sentence.

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Submitted by Doublehelix on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 11:40am

I told him to reply - 2 words "no thanks." They talk on OFW...don't want to set off the "tone meter" lol

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Submitted by Thumper on Thu, 08/06/2020 - 3:00pm

I was thinking the same thing, Delusional.

OR is she smoking Meth?

My xh and I get a long fairly well.---ewww the thought of him living that close. Nope just nope. We need to be seperated by at least 1 state. The more the better..lol

OMG this reminds me of one poster from a little while back...The bm moved in right beside them or something God awful like that.  I would have moved that first day she appeard.