My partner and myself have been in a relationship for 3.5 years. When I first met her, she was about two years out of a 26yr marriage to a narcissist - she had done a vanishing act one night with the 2 children and moved back in with her mother (miles away from where she used to live)

Within a few months of meeting her we were very much in love and I spent a lot of my time undoing the damage that had been done by her husband during her marriage - people commented that after a year, that she was just a different person and that was down to me. This is the good part

There was constant discussions at the beginning of the relationship about her children’s and mother's behaviour both towards both me and my partner and this just ramped up and up and up and up! they made it quite clear that they would never accept me and just did everything in their power to split us up! The behaviour was discussing to say the least and IMO very controlling and manipulative in a lot of ways (way too many things to tell here so just won’t bother) this has cause constant conflict between myself and my partner, with me trying to stop them doing what they were doing to us  :(

It seems to me that both her children and mother are also narcissistic in behaviour and I would say the eldest daughter (24) and mother (70) are of type covert and the other daughter (13) was just out and out messed right up in so many ways with extreme behaviour.

By the Christmas just gone, I was actually living with my partner and by this time I had decided that she was my one and she would tell me the same thing - we both agreed that we had never loved anyone so much and that we were compatible big time! both in and out of the bedroom and had so many things in common.
The stronger our love became, the more that bad behaviour ramped up and my partner just seemed incapable of standing up to them in any way or form (she did try). This all came to a head of the holiday period, when they were all out our house and I just and blew my top and threw them all out (I mean I really lost it) unfortunately my partner went with them :( 

My partner moved back to her mums and I moved to a new house of my own, but we were still seeing each other and getting on better without the constant arguing, I would say this was the best 4 months of our relationship, but here is the but - she wasn’t telling them that she was seeing me and the times that she was she was lying to them about her whereabouts. she would also not turn up at times she would arrange with me and give some crappy excuse why she didn’t turn up. two weeks ago, I said that this constant grabbing time together was not really acceptable and we needed to talk. she asked what I wanted and I said as follows:
I would like two evenings a week with just us at my place, obviously sort not set in stone, if she was not well or her youngest was not well - or we could swap days around if we were to do some socialising and most importantly that she stops lying to her mother and kids and lying to me as to why she could not come round and lying to herself!

It was agreed that she would tell them that this is what she wanted too (and she really did - not just doing it for me) two weeks ago on a Friday night she text me to say that she was talking to them and they were just sitting there listening and that she loved me. That is that last I heard from her for two days, when I Finally! received a text saying that we were over and that her entire family(mother and two daughters) had said that they hated me and were basically saying that I was all the things that they were doing to us - she said they were heartbroken and the kids were saying stuff like they wished they were never born and she loved me more than them and that they were losing her to me and the list goes on...........
I have text her many times, but she just reads and does not answer and will not answer calls and hasn’t even come to my place to pick up the few items that she has here

How can someone say that they wanted to marry you, and that I’m their biggest love, just drop me dead after 3.5 years - to say I’m gutted and heartbroken is an understatement and I can’t grasp what has happened or why it ended up like this?
I have left a tonne out of my story so far and not gone into any great detail because there would be just too much to tell, but I think you get the gist huh?

I put her things in a bag this morning and placed them on her step in her garden – looking up at her bedroom – could see all the little tokens of love that I had brought her sitting on her windowsill (I broke down into tears) by the way we are not youngsters – we are both in our 50’s

Heartbroken!!