What a crappy weekend!!   I will try to keep it short. 

My BS is home for a short time before leaving to his next duty station.  He splits his time between me and the XH.  This past weekend he was here with me.  

DH is working out of town this past weekend through next.  He will be home late in the evenings but gone early in am until late night.  This past weekend was kid weekend.  Typically YSS doesn’t come on the weekends DH works out of town but this time DH three a curve ball and said late Friday night YSS was coming because “he wanted to spend time with BS”.  I wasn’t thrilled but kept that to myself.

the second YSS comes in the door Friday evening he goes straight to the video game and we don’t see him all evening.  The next morning Bs and I had planned to go to an event an hour away and asked YSS to go.  He said no and wanted to stay home.  We left and had a great day and got him about 6 pm.  YSS didn’t stick his head out of the bedroom until 7 pm.  YSS asked for a friend to spend the night.  I said No nicely and told him he should wait until DH is home for a friend to come since I was tired from being gone all day.   YSS  storms off mumbling and slams the bedroom door. I count to 100 and calm down.  Next I get a text from YSS from the bedroom asking again for his friend to stay saying BM can come get them early in the morning so he can “at least have some fun”.  Well that tipped me over the edge.  After taking a few deep breaths I cam YSS into the living room.   I point out that the whole purpose for him being there is to spend time worn BS WHiCH he has not done.  Then YSS says he doesn’t have fun with BS.  Ughh. So I again ask them why did you come??  He claims he is bored.  So I remind him of how he chose to stay home all day by himself and it is not my fault he is bored and he should think twice before taking it out on me.   He again says he didn’t want to do what we were doing blah. Blah blah.  I again told him “not my problem “.  He chose how his weekend went, not I.  And he chose to be bored, not I.  And he can stop taking his decisions out on me.    

Not I wasn’t yelling, screaming, cursing or anything.  It was a firm conversation as I didn’t want him to think it was ok to ever treat me like that. 

Yss ended up going back to his room and anytime he came out he shot me side eye.  He is furious with me.  

I told DH about it and he didn’t have anything to say which kind of bothered me.  I felt he should have told me I was right but he was mute.  No big surprise. 

So later I got to thinking....DH didn’t say anything so why?  So I looked at his phone and saw the text exchange with YSS.  And also, YSS never text his dad to complain about me getting on him.  But I did see that it wasn’t YSS who asked to come over.  It was DH who didn’t ask YSS to come but told him to come so he could hang out with BS.   What an asshole! 

Now that doesn’t excuse YSS for being a douche.  Or being mad about not having a friend.  But DH could have prevented the whole mess by letting YSS stay home and do his thing.  I’m so furious right now.  I have very few weekend with my BS and the last thing I wanted to do was deal with YSSs moody ass.  DH Is such a manipulative jerk!  Thank goodness he is barely home all week because I don’t want to see his face!

And by third time is a charm...YSS is the third kid of DH who hates me now.   And I’m sure if YSS stops coming over it will all be my fault!   I’m sure BM will use this to further her PAS!!