Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
He's a nasty person for
He's a nasty person for expecting you to love any child like a mother, except for your own.
Feelings
For a long long time he didn't seem to understand the fact I had no maternal instincts towards them. And even when they were poorly I would actively avoid them, being pregnant was the main reason, just never seemed to understand and still doesn't to a degree.
They all want they
They all want that " Happy Family " They did not have it with the ex the other parent. But think you are going to just fill in on all the thing they missed by marriage the wrong person. They don't want to blame them selves so they will start blaming you. Don't get trapped in this
Staying?
If you want to stay in this partnership start placing boundaries now. There is absolutely no reason why you should feel 'maternal' to the skids. Let DH know that the more he 'orders' you BE maternal, the less you will have a desire to be. As far as those boundaries: Make a list of everything you want in a relationship and a husband. For instance, the marriage has top priority, DH presents a united couple to the skids and supports you in the equal role as his wife. Believe me - it is easier to do it now - BEFORE you get married and have to work on damage control.
Likely, this will not get
Likely, this will not get better. You are only 6mo in, not much time (or hopefully money) invested yet.
My advice? Move on to someone more compatible.
Dont feel that way
Life is short make yourself happy first. These step monsters are forced upon us
Add in
Weekend vacations alone or with bio only. No SK. One vacation a year with bio kid only. Somewhere where bio can have fun as time goes on
Bears Repeating
SParenting tends to be a slap in the face once a relationship has moved to a status of commitment
Well said, Rags.