Borderline Personality Disorder with a side of psychosis?
Last night we received a call from the group home my SD(14) lives in. She was caught with a back pack full of prescription meds and THC pods and drug paraphernalia. Turns out she has joined a "gang" and is dating a 19 year old drug dealer. When confronted with this recent trouble she has gotten herself into- she threatened suicide and became violent to the point she had be restrained.
The group home no longer wants her there. We are now scrambling to find her placement in a psychiatric facility. She cannot come here. There is no way we are able to handle this child and all of her problems.
The psychiatrist she saw last night said my step daughter is extremely lonely, feels she doesn't belong anywhere and gave us a long speech about how we have to learn to trust her..... this child attempted to throw a child in our home out of window in a fit of rage once( just for perspective). She was just caught selling drugs. Trust isn't happening.....
Does anyone have experience with personality disorders? I've been wondering for a long time if she could have psychosis related to a personality disorder?
A therapist mentioned anti social personality disorder at one point, but the group home insists this is not the case and these are behaviors....
I'm really fed up with the way the doctors dismiss the severity of her actions. I pushed last night to have her arrested. Told them maybe some time at juvie is in order. My request was denied, which I find mind boggling. How is a kid going to learn actions like this have severe consequences- unless she has severe consequence at some point -before it is too late, and she finds out the hard way as an adult? A juvenile record sounds a lot better than a permanent record, no?
14 years old and all of these problems have to be some sort of personality disorder, right?
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So the people working at the
So the people working at the group home last night didn't involve the police? As a former group home program director, I can tell you that is against their policy. I would call the director, the board, whomever is running the place and tell them employees have failed to alert police to felony drug possession. They will have the cops down there before you hang up. Hopefully she will be charged and sentenced to juvie so she won't darken your doorstep.
They did not. They did call
They did not. They did call for psychiatric help. She has been expelled from the home and the school she was attending. It's all crazy. Nothing ever seems to happen to her.
Police were called for the fight she got into at the home. Another girl there was really hurt. All they did was put her on a type of probation that ended up being nothing. A person in need of supervision- I think it was called. They didn't even drug test her.
I'm not expecting much else from them now.
Yeah, that surprised me, too
I would definitely check the rules for group homes and that places specific policies.
I'm guessing it would be a felony if she had them at school or anywhere else, so why not the group home?
The psychiatrist she saw last
Where did this psychiatrist get her degree? Box of cracker jacks? Grab bag at the dollar store? Just trust the 14 year old who is being kicked out of a group home! NO!!! No sane person would.
i am so sorry you (your whole family) is going through this. There are no easy answers as you already know. I hope your search for a placement for her is answered soon.
The psychiatrist she saw last
I know it may not sound
I know it may not sound feasible.. but maybe her father needs to get a place to stay with her.. outside your home if placement can't be found?
I presented that as an option
I presented that as an option to my husband. He said he would rather she go to foster care.
She has a long history of abusing us all, and I think he has had enough now. He told me to call foster care if she ends up here. I'd hate to do it, but if "Mom" can't help and they won't find some sort of placement for her- it may be our last resort.
This is a nightmare for your
This is a nightmare for your LadyC, I am sooooooooooo sorry.
Your right to protect your home and children inside your home first. As noted above, I too am not surprised about the hints you should bring sd back into your home. THAT is a no go because she is a safety concern for herself and others. Some things are bigger than we are and yours is one of those awful situations.
In patient long term is the smart, safe decision for her proper treatment and her protection as well as protections of others.
Some people are not well Lady C, some folks may never become well. But first it requires a proper diagnosis.
When I was little, maybe treatment away was a nationally known Psychiatric Hospital. It closed in the mid 80's. Around that time frame was the start of families to be forced into the care for their very VERY unwell family members. Fast forward to now...shutting down these hospitals one by one was a huge mistake.
I am very sorry your faced with this.
I am so sorry. It's an awful
I am so sorry. It's an awful situation to be in, for everyone involved. I am shocked that the group home wouldn't involve the police. Does she have to actually murder someone before they'll do anything? Good lord.
Her behavior sounds a lot like my FIL, who has NPD and Bi-Polar, when he is in a "mixed edpisode." When is properly medicated and attending therapy regularly, he does just fine and is actually a successful engineer. But if he goes off his meds for more than a week it is a train wreck with erratic behavior, violence, drugs, and complete recklessness. It's like he isn't even the same person. I will say that he wasn't properly diagnosed until he had a truly terrible manic episode in his late 40s that resulted in involuntary hospitalization.
How does this girl have a
How does this girl have a boyfriend if she's in a group home?? Sounds like she needs a higher level of supervision, not hugs.
I struggled for years to find mental health treatment for then-teen YSD. I was told that the mental health community was hesitant to diagnose teens due to all of the hormonal changes they experience. I happen to believe you can be an a$$hole at any age, and that teens are old enough to follow direction and understand rules.
IMO, your priority should be ensuring that the other children in your home get to have a peaceful, drama free childhood. I hope your SO is able to find a suitable placement for his daughter, and that she decides to shape up. I feel for all of you.
She goes to a regular school.
She goes to a regular school. For reasons that baffle me. I assume she met him there or through someone there. NY state is dropping the ball big time.
Lady~ Prayers that your SD
Lady~ Prayers that your SD gets the help she so desperately needs. I agree with the other posters that you are right to protect yourself and the other kids in your home. SD staying in your house simply isn't an option and for the Psychiatrist to suggest trusting her is insane. I could never "trust" someone who tried to throw someone out a window and stomped another human being into a coma....Her behavior is escalating and I fear in the future she may really get to a point where prison may be her permanent home if she continues this way.
She's definitely hurting and in need of so much assistance. Wishing you strength and that things work out well for you all.
The group home can not throw her out onto the street.
They must find some one or place to take her. That why they are giving you the old song and dance act.
Just say NO, you are not taking her into your home. If a group home with all there resources can't handle her.. How are you.