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Submitted by Kmommyof388 on Sun, 10/06/2019 - 8:25pm

Wowwww!

So apparently since my house is "always filthy" I need my children taken away from me?

*shok*  

the sister inlaw strikes again.....dear god she needs to get a grip. According to the text dh got this morning 

iam..lazy,neglectful towards my children abusive towards my stepson and my house always looks like a hurricane went through it..and for all these reasons the state should come in take my kids away and give them to her...

please lord give me strength

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Submitted by Kmommyof388 on Sun, 10/06/2019 - 9:18pm

Decision, but sadly im sure dh will be upset if I do that since (his family never sees our children lmao) not only that but I have no courage to just say youre unwelcome in my home..i feel like that would be so rude and unkind of me

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Sun, 10/06/2019 - 9:24pm

Why would you allow someone in your home who is threatening to call Child Protective Services on you? Why do you think you need to be kind to someone who talks so terribly about you?

If she calls CPS and says you are abusive towards your SS and they open an investigation, you run the risk of losing your children. Why open yourself up to that? You have every right to disengage totally from this woman.

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Submitted by Cooooookies on Mon, 10/07/2019 - 12:55am

So you're worried about being rude and unkind to a person who speaks very serious abuse and neglect stories about you?  She sure isn't worried about being very rude and unkind towards you.  She could file a false complaint to Child Services.  Even if they find everything to be untrue, you could possible have a record against plus go through the traumatic experience of being investigated.

I wouldn't be worried about manners...I'd be worried about what sort of serious potential trouble she could cause you and your children.  Let her be angry about not being able to step foot in your home!  Tell your DH that you're not going to be accused and listen to false and potentially very harmful lies and be subjected to her hateful manner.  If she feels that you are that bad then she does not need to step foot in your home again.

Better to have an upset SIL then upset children who are being investigated by CPS.  Your children's well being and safety is your priority.

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Submitted by tog redux on Mon, 10/07/2019 - 5:25am

OP, this is how you get walked on by people. This SIL is making very clear to you that she doesn't respect you and means you harm, and you are worried about being "unkind"? 

I'm wondering if you had an abusive childhood - this is the kind of behavior that could result from that: allowing yourself to be abused and then being hard on yourself about being unkind to the person abusing you. This stems from an abusive person convincing you that the abuse is YOUR fault.

Please find a therapist to help you sort this out.

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Submitted by Kmommyof388 on Mon, 10/07/2019 - 9:50am

But from my late teens to early 20s i was in a terrible relationship I suppose thats why I'm "conditioned" to being walked on.had a serrious talk with dh last night. He said he doesn't want her here either so i guess the plan is tellhershe isn't welcome and if she does show up call cops. Dh has a theory that her doin all this stems from her not being able to have more children..idk all I know is I never wanted it to be this way but mom always told me love everyone but do not to break bread with snakes 

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Mon, 10/07/2019 - 1:12pm

Your DH is a fool if he allows his sister into your home. After all, HE LIVES THERE, TOO. That makes him part of the CPS investigation.