Destructive-even to their own things?
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I am just curious whether this is a behavior that others have seen. My (pretty feral) kids are often very careless and destructive. They have very little regard for other people or their belongings. They are not babies or toddlers- they are 9, 7 and 6. What REALLY stumps me though, is how they ruin their OWN things breaking their toys, tearing their blankets, ripping books apart. I mostly find it to be pretty sad.. they care about nothing, not even their own things. I understand that it's certainly not normal.. just wondering if any among you have also seen or experienced this bizarre behavior.
And sorry, I don't see the
And sorry, I don't see the option to edit here on the forum.. they're stepkids.. not my kids, lol.
My SD actually said to DH and
My SD actually said to DH and I that “being destructive is fun!”
She definitely has a mentality that if she can’t find it or it breaks that it can just be replaced. That isn’t something she learns at our house. But based on what DH told me when he and BM were still together, BM didn’t care if things got broken. BM’s other kid even busted their new tv when the Wii remote flew out of his hand because he didn’t listen and didn’t wear the wrist strap. If that we’re my kid, they’d be working to pay off their debt for a fixed tv.
I do not find this to be normal behavior but I also feel like we live in such a throwaway society that kids might feel that it’s ok if stuff get destroyed.
And ya know what? They destroy something, don’t replace it. They either learn to fix it or work to replace it.
Oh no, wantonly broken items
Oh no, wantonly broken items do not get replaced here. Different story at BM's house though. I am over buying anything for them at all, because they appreciate nothing.
OMG! Yes, the skids were
OMG! Yes, the skids were sooooo destructive; especially SD. Zero concept of treating anything nice. Phones were tossed in the air and caught as if they were tennis balls resulting in chronically broken screens. Nothing was treated well from carpet to walls to cars to personal items. Even things you would think they cared about like their bikes, phones, cool outfit from the mall. Nope. Trashed, broken, filthy. ExSO admitted he wasn’t going to get his deposit back on the house soley based on the condition of SD’s room. Was she even punished or restricted? Nope.
It all boils down to permissive parenting. No expectations and no consequences. Skids run the show at whatever cost; financial or otherwise.
Spawn was always breaking
Spawn was always breaking stuff and it would be replaced by Grand Hag, even with Spawn living with us, Grand Hag would replace the item.
BS and BD were both raised that if you broke it that was it, it was gone. To this day they have items that they have played with/used for years and are still in good shape.
If the kid is taught that everything is replaceable then they value nothing.
Had this issue too! Basically
Had this issue too! Basically I stopped biyinh them, or helping DH buy anything for them. OSD destroyed 3 bedside lamps within two years. One only lasted a month or so as she took it apart (she begged for that lamp!) Destroying it. I found it stuffed in a drawer.
Games, art project items, books, clothing, sheets, etc. Alllll of it. My makeup ONCE.
DH buys it all and I ignore.
Yes...Hide your stuff that is
Yes...Hide your stuff that is valuable too. Accidently broken or accidently missing.
Antiques, family heirlooms, stashed cash things like that. When that doesn't work anymore some kids move on to applicenses.
When they break their own things in your house, bm may say YOU did it to the childreeeeenssss things and YOU have to replace it. Some bm's take it to their lawyers too. THEN file complaints in court. So, dont allow electronics in your home. Just saying.
Then wait until your told it was all on purpose to turn your house UP side down and upset everyone.
True stories I heard of....