Why do you want a proposal and a ring from someone who you are having so many issues with, including not wanting to be intimate and apparently not being able to communicate how you really feel about your relationship? This should be the fun, easy part of the relationship.  Do you read comments from all of the SMs on this site that tell everyone to run? They ignored the red flags that a relationship wasn't quite right, too. The best next step is a step back from the relationship, not pushing it forward.

Can I just say how frustrating it is on this site to read story after story where someone describes a relationship that clearly isn't working and then talks about having a baby with or marrying the person. So disheartening to read so much of that.

Why is he so in a hurry?  Perhaps he is low on applicants to be his live in maid, nanny, secretary, cook, laundress, bed buddy, paralegal and financial backer of his former family?

If you have having these feelings now, listen to them!  Listen to your gut. It's telling you something for a reason.  You get to have all that you want in life - a great career, friends, partner.  You do not need to settle.  

I agree with your grandfather I'm kind of old school as well. I actually have personal experience with this. I lived with my boyfriend for about 14 months before I moved out. I thought it would destroy our relationship, but I couldn't live there any longer. First off, I honestly went against my values which is to wait until engagement to live together and secondly there was drama and issues with his kids/custody. Moving out honestly helped my relationship. He does not take me for granted anymore and has more respect for me. If your bf ends things over you wanting to wait then he's not interested in a relationship . He's interested in what is convenient for him. Hang in there :/.

If your boyfriend respects you and truly wants a future with you, he would have no problem proposing. Don’t sign up for wife life and SM life with no further commitment from him. You are NOT stuck. Live independently and build your own life. If he’s committed, he’ll make the proper efforts to stay in your life and commit to you. 

I’ve had several long-term relationships without living with any of my SOs. The beauty is that when the sh@t hits the fan, you can walk away clean. No shared finances, rental agreements, splitting up property. It’s “Deuces Sucka!”

"why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free." Your grandpa's right. He'll never propose if you move in and start doing everything a wife would do for her husband. I always told my BF I wouldn't live with him before marriage and I've stayed true to my word even now. And like the others have said, if he truly loves you and respects you he won't put pressure on you to move in and he'll respect your decision to live separately, and in the future he'll propose.

In every relationship I have been in, I made sure to be as truthful as possible in my intentions. If the guy stuck, he stuck. If he didn’t then I moved on. You don’t have to marry this guy to have a committed relationship but if that’s what you want then you need to tell him. It’s only fair to him and you.

I don't think you have to be married to be committed. Divorcees, especially men with children, can be hesitant of entering that legal committment again. They already know marriage may not be forever, and divorce comes with social and financial consequences that can and have ruined people. Not legally entangling yourself seems like a sweet deal if you've been through one hell of a divorce.

If you want to get married because that means commitment to you, then you'll need a new partner. It's not your BF. Whether it's the reason above or something else, he's not wanting to wade into those waters again. His want to have just a long-term partner is just as valid as your want for a husband. That part comes down to a compatibility issue, not a "who has the right philosophy about what makes a commited couple".

You disengaging from your SO and moping about isn't going to get him to genuinely change his mind. If he were to propose now, you'd have to wonder if he did it just to keep you from moving out. You'll brighten up as he shuts down because being married isn't what he wants.

Seems like you want to be married just to be married. Why would you commit further to a relationship with no intimacy? Yes, all relationships have problems, but that's a doozie of a problem right there.

Lots of women get married because they want a wedding or they think they should be married, and so they marry the guy they happen to be with, and it's a recipe for disaster.

If he wanted to marry you, he would ask. You shouldn't have to give people ultimatums or move out to get them to marry you, it should happen organically because both parties feel it's the right thing to do, and both parties want it.

Move on, find a guy who wants what you want.

Your SK can start living with you 24/7/365.  That something to also think about.

Time for the talk.  You have to tell him what you want ,including a baby,   Ring, date, baby ect.  See what his answer is? If he does not want to make you “ happy”: Then it’s time for you to get out. 

That’s how it was with relationships. My husband never married his x for 10 years and we got married a year after we met.

Your grandpa os so right lol but it’s not about the man. It’s not to make him marry you or propose. It’s for you to CHOOSE your future husband carefully and with no pressure of already living together and having no choice. 

He’s not that into you as a life partner. You are a convenient asset for him to use.