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Submitted by fairyo on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 1:01pm

I just checked in to say all's well in Fairyland and for those who remember me (I haven't logged in since March) I just want to say I am doing ok. Life is very busy and I get very tired, but I'm still working hard and I remain step-free. I am still on my own but have adjusted and I'm happy to be back on here just to say hello and hope my old friends are ok. Maybe I'll still check in now and again to remind myself of how unhappy my life used to be!

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Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 1:03pm

Fairyo!!! You've been missed!

I'm so glad you're adjusting and things are going well!!! You've amazing!!!

(((HUGS)))

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 1:24pm

Hi Fairyo!

Glad you are adjusted well and seem so much at peace & happy. Wishing you all the best sweetie!!!

Give rose

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Submitted by fairyo on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 1:39pm

some days are tough- but I wouldn't go back- not for a minute.

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Submitted by Letti.R on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 1:46pm

Hello Fairyo.
Glad you checked in Smile and let us know how you are doing.
I will always remember you as one of the people who helped me ditch steplife too - thank you!

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Submitted by fairyo on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 2:35pm

Wow! Thanks for that- hope post step-life is good for you too- it is hard when you don't know poster's particular circumstances but I know we also share so many experiences too. So good to see so many people still active here!

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 2:06pm

Yes, please do visit once in a while! I now have a newly minted teenager, have been through my first mothers day weekend as a stepmother (it went well, I got chocolate chip pancakes and some fun times!). You missed Winonas latest escapade as a Feral Forger, and all the excitement that came along with that...

lol.

So whats new?

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Submitted by fairyo on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 2:48pm

I think I missed quite a few things but it feels good to be back!

What's new? I was going to put nothing much but lots of things have changed:

I have lost about 30lbs in weight and have come off meds I thought I'd be on forever

I am really enjoying my job and earning just enough to keep myself comfortable

I have just flown long-haul by myself for the first time

I am writing a novel

I am getting out with friends more

I am seeing much more of my own family

I get lots of visitors and they love my home

I am making my own hanging baskets to hang in my sunny backyard

I fixed my own heating system!

I'm doing great really- steptalk is the best!

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 2:57pm

You fixed your own heating system> Girl crush!

I too have started on a book. Whats the genre? Is it a fairy tale continued from the last one you wrote last year? A hot romance? A self-help for Stepmothers who need encouragement to get out of step hell? lol. Do tell Biggrin

And bon voyage! I also need a vacay and to lose 30 lbs...step hell has not been kind.

However you hang them, Im sure the flowers will be gorgeous.

Biggrin

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Submitted by fairyo on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 4:16pm

Oh I'm so glad I popped back here-I  didn't realise how much I missed all this positivity! Yes, I'm getting there but the last six months have been hard. A very good friend of mine has been very depressed and is having therapy, she looks to me for her shoulder to cry on and it's been difficult when I've had so much of my own to deal with.

Also I have been working really hard and have had to adjust to paying bills and managing my finances and at times that hasn't been easy.

I know there is a wealth of experience on here but I am not writing about step experiences- that part of my life really is over so I'll leave that to all you wonderful people who still have to deal with it everyday. 

No, the book is something I have wanted to do for a very long time so I'm getting on with it but don't want to say too much except it isn't a fairytale or a romance but it is fiction. At least the characters are made up but it is related to my own experiences. Maybe I should think that if I hadn't have left when I did, it may not have been started.

Sometimes you just have to chase your dreams don't you?

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Submitted by Kes on Thu, 06/06/2019 - 12:37am

Hi Fairyo!  So many positive things you list, but particularly well done on the weight loss and coming off the meds.  You are a kind person but don't let your friend drag you down, she needs to understand that you, too are fragile atm.  

Very pleased to read your update, and well done on your new life! xxx

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Thu, 06/06/2019 - 6:15am

how ditching step HELL can do wonderful things for your health!  Kudos!

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Thu, 06/06/2019 - 6:42am

^^^This. People really underestimate the damage constant stress will do to BOTH physical and mental health!

OP: I am so happy you are doing so well and the effects of step-hell are waning.

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Submitted by SacrificialLamb on Thu, 06/06/2019 - 5:06pm

I was just thinking about you yesterday and wondering how you are! Glad your report is so positive!

 

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Sat, 01/04/2020 - 12:05pm

Happy 2020 Fairyo!

Miss you but also happy to imagine all the other great things you've got going on in your skid-free life. Biggrin

Please check in with a 2020 Fairyo Update. Sending you good juju. Biggrin

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Fri, 05/28/2021 - 10:51am

Dear Fairyo, sending you good vibes, wondering how you're doing, and if you've finished your book!

Best regards,

Biggrin