SS is 12 years old and has a older sister who does not come over(another story). DH shares joint Custody with BM and almost 50/50 visitation. It seems the older SS gets the more needy/clingy he gets for DH BUT only when he’s over to our house. Let me explain...Ever year DH and I take ONE week long vacation where DH will miss two parenting days. Every year DH dreads bringing it up as SS has a melt down crying over not seeing “daddy” for a week. But every year BM takes SS on vacation for a week and SS does  not bat a eye. Also VERY occasionally DH will have to work a few hours on a parenting day and SS will drive me nuts asking how much longer till “daddy” gets home. When DH finally gets home SS will come running to him yelling “DADDY” like he has not seen him in months. SS will then follow DH around clinging to him talking non stop the rest of the day. Remember SS is 12 not 5. So Fing annoying Especially if I want to talk to DH. 

Now here comes the weird part. Once SS leave our house and goes back to BM’s it’s like he forgets about DH. Before SS got a phone he would call SS on BM’s house phone and SS would NEVER return the call. When asked SS said BM never told him DH called. We brought that intill SS got his own cell phone. Not only does SS never call or even texts DH but 90 percent of the time won’t return DH calls or texts. For kid who gets so bent out of shape if daddy has to work or takes one vacation once a year without him you would thing he would be calling/texting non stop. 

So what’s up with this behavior AND more importantly how do I prevent good old daddy from getting manipulated and guilted by this kid?