Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
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Yay! When does he start? Can
Yay! When does he start? Can he move out the next day?
First Day June 3 2019
He'll end his internship on 5/24/2019 and then have a week off befor starting the new job.
~BettyRay
Now, you have to get him out
Now, you have to get him out of your house ASAP. Given his poor attitude, he may not last long at that job. Get him launched while he has the income to get his own place.
Exactly!
Exactly!
Working on it already
DH and I both have a list of chores for him to do, in addition to paying rent beginning June 1.
~BettyRay
HIs decision
Would be nice if his dad could be happy for him.
DH is happy for SS22
It's SS22 who isn't happy about it, SS22 thinks he should be making what his friends are getting. What SS22 doesn't understand is that his GPA is mediocre, which means he's not the top dog.
~BettyRay
That's a good start up
That's a good start up package.
How long before he quits because it's too hard?
6 months
That's my guess. SS22 will be crawling back - adulting is so hard.
~BettyRay
Don't give him that option
Don't give him that option and don't charge him for rent...charge him for the cost of changing the locks.
If I got 3 weeks of vacation
If I got 3 weeks of vacation I would be jumping for joy... I get like 6 hours a month... Literally. So it's SLOW to build up, and you take one day and just lost what took you a month and a half to save up.
He should be thrilled! I don't understand!
Exactly
When I started with this company I earned 7 hours of vacation a month.
~BettyRay
Yay!! He should be
Yay!! He should be established in his NEW apartment before he starts so it doesn't interfere with his new job.
Agreed
Totally Agree!
~BettyRay
Is there a probation period?
Is there a probation period? I don’t hesitate to fire lazy workers within that early period. If they’re not excited about the job and don’t want to work hard, it becomes obvious pretty quickly.
Termination during Probation
Is my fear.
~BettyRay
He'll be fired
if its a decent company for his attitude. If its a gov't job or a poorly run org they'll keep him and promote him
It's a private company
There are no PEs (professional engineers) on staff. Which was my "lighbulb moment". In order to get a PE certification SS22 has to work 3 years under an engineer who is PE certified. I can see SS22 giving this as an excuse for quitting. Or staying as they may promote him quickly and make it hard for him to leave, SS22 is money hungry.
~BettyRay
That's why you need to boot
That's why you need to boot him ASAP and let him know that if this job falls through he's not landing at your house.