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Love my DAH, But Sometimes He's Dumb as a Box of Rocks

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Submitted by 24 years as a SM on Tue, 04/16/2019 - 4:24pm

DAH went with SD38 (Leech) to SGD9's dance competition last weekend. SGD9 did great, Leech basically dinged at DAH to buy something at every place they stopped in the Bay Area. DAH did this to a tune of $500, so I am transferring $5000 from his savings into my savings account today. Good thing that DAH has relatives in the Bay Area or I would be transferring more for the cost of hotel rooms.

DAH was pissed that Leech expected him to buy a bunch of crap for her and SGD9 at every place they went. Leech told DAH that she has always been treated like a princess and doesn't expect it to end now. When DAH came home and told me this. I told him that I hoped he had a nice weekend, but Leech was right, he's always treated her like a princess and why should she grow up and stand on her own two feet, when he always ends up paying for her shit. DAH admitted to spoiling her before she turned 18, but he thought that she would see the light and start acting like an adult at 18.

WTF! I laughed so hard, I almost wet my pants, told DAH that a good parent would have taught their kid the value of money and working, not spoiling the self entitled brat, then expect her to magically change when she turned 18. DAH just stood there like a bump on a log, then said that there's nothing he can do about it now. YES there is, Asshole, you can stop paying everything for her, so she will have to get a J.O.B.

Oh Well, more money into my savings, every time he does this stupid crap.

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Submitted by 24 years as a SM on Tue, 04/16/2019 - 5:06pm

I keep hoping that he will stop this insanity, but it goes in cycles, every 6 to 8 months, he will loose his mind and try to buy her time and affection for a couple of weeks, then he will see how she really acts and then he stops and swears that he's not doing this anymore. Groundhog Day, every 6 to 8 months.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 04/16/2019 - 6:10pm

dumb ass husband

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Submitted by 24 years as a SM on Wed, 04/17/2019 - 12:23am

There are times that I have a few other choice names for him, but lately this one seems to fit him perfectly.

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Submitted by notasm3 on Tue, 04/16/2019 - 8:47pm

I sometimes wonder if DH would have been a limp noodle if he'd had a daughter instead of sons.  I know how adorable little girls can be.  I have a much younger sister, and I have always adored her.  I always had a weakness for little girls vs smelly boys - but that does not mean that I hated the boys.

DH now has a grandson who is 3 and another baby is on the way.  I do sometimes wonder if the second child is a girl if it will be different.

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Submitted by 24 years as a SM on Wed, 04/17/2019 - 12:27am

seems to be worse when it's a female involved. DAH will get on my two grandsons, but very seldom will he scold SGD9 or Leech.

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Tue, 04/16/2019 - 10:45pm

I always look forward to your posts because I love the way you handle your business, OP. You don't whine or play the victim; instead, you have boundaries and agreed upon consequences for your spineless Disney Dad.

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Submitted by 24 years as a SM on Wed, 04/17/2019 - 12:31am

It took me a long time to finally start standing up for myself. Now that I don't put up with step issues, I have no filter, when it comes to his crap with Leech or SGD9.

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Submitted by Monkeysee on Wed, 04/17/2019 - 1:44am

I hope you have no intention of sharing your savings with DAH OP, or at least making access difficult/only for things you absolutely agree to. Your DAH is making a rod for his own back. I don’t understand why he doesn’t just tell her no!

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Submitted by 24 years as a SM on Wed, 04/17/2019 - 3:18pm

Or a down payment on a vacation house that I have been looking at in Idaho.

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Submitted by mro on Sat, 04/20/2019 - 8:04am

The sad thing is, he is not doing her any favors in the long run.  I have a daughter her age who is disabled and lives on a very limited income and even she knows not to pull that.  For the most part, she pays her own way and buys her own stuff.  Of course we offer to treat her to lunch or outing occasionally, and make sure she has what she needs, and some extras she really wants,  but she knows not to expect someone else to pay her way all the time.