Your SO is an A$$ and is emotionally abusive. That is what's happening.

I had a look through some of your previous blogs, and I must agree with markvualum - your SO is emotionally abusive.  Punishing you by uninviting you to family events, for legitimate concerns that you have about family dynamics, is emotionally abusive.  A bit like my exH used to behave. He used to "ice" me out all the time - once for a period of 2 years, no kidding!  I was so broken by his abuse that it took a massive mental breakdown to make me leave.  

Please don't allow anyone to treat you this way - you are worth more.  

Iced out? Maybe you should ice him out of your life - permanently! Not addressing your concerns is disrespectful and dismissive. It hurts.

I agree with Kes that you are allowing your SO to treat you this way. Stop it. Remove yourself from the situation as I am not sure what it is exactly that you are getting out of this relationship, besides abuse and unhappiness. You deserve better and should want better for yourself which is something only you can make happen. Sometimes that means walking away from dysfunction and abuse. "Love" won't conquer disrepect, dysfunction and abuse.

You have been uninvited.  Take the easy out.  When he calls wondering why you have not been pounding down his door begging to be let back in, tell him that as far as you are concerned he ended the relationship and you have no idea why he is contacting you.  Take the out.

You can do better than this and it will not be hard ot improve your situation either, if you remove yourself. If he is acting like this while you are dating, heaven forbid the man that may emerge after marriage. 

He is giving you an out, perfect way to move on and you should. Remember, you can do better!

You can do better than this and it will not be hard ot improve your situation either, if you remove yourself. If he is acting like this while you are dating, heaven forbid the man that may emerge after marriage. 

He is giving you an out, perfect way to move on and you should. Remember, you can do better!

RUN!

Listen to your SO.  He is giving you very good advice, notwithstanding that I think he is emotionally abusing you as he does it.

Surely you can do better than this man and his bothersome children.  Frankly, I'd rather be alone. 

It's time for you to UNINVITE your abusive SO from your life.

Definitely go back and reread your posts. If this was a friend of yours, surely you would tell them to RUN!!!!!!
Give yourself this gift.

Uninviting you to family events. I read your previous posts where he blames his kids behave differently when you are around. If you are polite civil etc and your partner sees this, the problem is his kids, they are being disrespectful and rude and what you have is a partner using you as the scapegoat and putting his kids on a pedestal. Screw that!! 

You are not being treated with respect and instead of having a partner trying to make things better, he’s basically told you to “f*#k off” without the vulgar words. 

You need to leave this relationship. Period. It will not get better and your SO will never be in your corner. Don’t do what I did and continue wasting precious years of your life on a losing situation. 

WHOO HOO!!!  YOUR FREE!!!

Honestly, it sounds like he broke up with you. And if he didn't, then it's just f*cked up and not any behavior you should tolerate from someone who supposedly loves you. His words and actions would have gutted me. I don't know how you can get past this, or why you would even want to.

Plan a fun getaway on your own and use it to think of ways to make 2019 a great year, that does not involve your SO.

I'm sorry to hear you're in pain over your SO's reaction. It doesn't seem he's willing to hear anything but what he wants to hear about his children. I am the stepmother to two adult stepdaughters and although I thought it would get easier when they grew up and moved in to their mother's house full time, it hasn't. We hardly see them, but when we do, it's tense. The girls don't have a good relationship with their father, which he has tried to blame on me. He was an authoritarian parent and was very hard on my two kids, while letting my stepdaughters get away with everything they did wrong. He didn't even want to hear it when they lied to me, didn't do their homework and were failing in school, but he sure did run to their defense when they told lies about me! I'm saying all this to suggest that you think long and hard about whether you want to continue in this relationship. I've been married to my husband for 16 years and we still have issues over adult children who don't even live with us. If I had it to do all over again, the minute he started defended their bad behavior and treating me poorly when I dared to say his angels weren't acting right, I would leave. I don't think it gets better over time because not everyone in the family wants the same harmony that you want. 

What’s going on is that you are dating a jerk. 

Sounds to me that you are starting a new life adventure with this moron and his shallow and polluted gene pool fading in your rear view mirror.

Congratulations.

In a way, I envy you. I wish I could wash my hands of all 4 of my SO's kids but he's such a good person and I love him. If he was flat-out rude the way yours was, I'd have a perfectly easy way out. 

This is a blessing! Take it and run!