BM messing with SS’s meds what can we do
BM is a new age Hippie vegan. This being said she is TOTALLY against any kind of medicine. The problem is pre-teen SS is Borderline psychotic and needs meds to Regulate his mood. SS has been in therapy since he was 5 due to his behavior. SS is a very Touchy kid and anything to set off his aggressive behavior. He has hurt kids at school daycare in the past. I have a young daughter who is seven that he has hurt before also. He has hit BF a number of times. BM has for years Argued with the psychiatrist to get SS off his meds BUT the Psychiatrists refused for Obvious reasons. Recently we caught SS throwing away his meds after we gave them to him to take. SS also has been more aggressive when he comes over from BM house. We strongly believe BM is no longer giving SS his meds when he is at her house. Yes we ask SS if he’s taking his meds at BM’s house and he says yes but SS is a Compulsive liar. I can totally see BM promising to give SS money or gift he lies to us and the drs about taking the meds. Is there any way we can prove this? What would you do?
Get with his doctor, tell
Get with his doctor, tell them what's going on and insist upon a blood test to monitor blood levels of medicine.
You can not let SS into
Your home un medicate. Tell SO. See SS outside of your home. This may end your marrage, but you have to protect your DD
Well - YOU personally can't
Well - YOU personally can't do anything. Your SO can speak to the psychiatrist and share his concern that his son may not be getting his medication regularly.
I'm not sure what "borderline psychotic" means, as that's not really a diagnosis, but if he is dangerous to himself or others when unmedicated, then the school or the psychiatrist can make a CPS report for medical neglect. A blood test won't work for most medications, only mood stabilizers can really be monitored that way.
You would probably be wise to protect your daughter and let your SO handle all of this stuff with his kid and BM.
Consult with the
Consult with the prescibing physician - best if SO because he can be told info but if it can only be you they will listen to what have to say, they just can't tell you anything under HIPAA. These meds can be more harmful if only intermittently taken than if they are not taken at all because they disturb an already fragile brain chemistry. Hopefully he can address the issue with BM if he has all of the details. I am sure she is not the only "granola girl" he has had to deal with!
To answer or clarify the questions above
First I would like to thank everyone who answered and I’m so happy to find the site. SS has been Diagnosed with Multiple different diagnosis through the years BUT The ones that everyone seems to agree on are Oppositional defiant disorder, ADHD and mood disorder. The “mood disorder” is bipolar BUT due to his age(under 18) they can’t Officially call it that so for now they just say mood disorder.
I do know he is on a mood stabilizer so that would show up in a blood test if he was not taking it? Also The fact we DO make sure he takes him meds so even if BM WAS not would it effect the blood results as the medicine will be in his blood from when we gave it to him.
I do let SO handle SS as he is getting bigger and I don’t want to deal with the little asshole.
SO has in the past mentioned to the Drs he strongly believes BM is not giving SS his meds but don’t think anything ever came of it as BM and SS Denies it. I’m thinking the blood test maybe the best route to go but not sure what the results will show as we are giving him all his meds. If we can prove it what if anything will the court do?
Some mood stabilizers require
Some mood stabilizers require regular blood monitoring, to be sure they are in the therapeutic range. I don't think they all require that or can be monitored that way. Depends on the drug.
Have SO talk to the psychiatrist.
Some also require
Some mood stabilizers also require other blood tests. For instance, if you take Lithium, you have to get your kidneys checked as Lithium can effect kidney funcion. DH should find out what routine blood tests should be done and make sure they are done on schedule.
Personal experience tells me that going on and off a mood stabilizer is not a good idea. Your body cannot adjust to either being on or off the drug and it makes you feel worse than being off the drug completely.
Take the kid to the doc for
Take the kid to the doc for blood tests each time he arrives at your home for visitation. If BM isn't following treatment protocol call CPS an nail her ass to the wall each and every time. Follow the CPS call with a child neglect/endangerment motion to the court.
Eventually the courts will smack her.
Good luck.