Still on crutches...
It has been confirmed that SD indeed did NOT have a torn meniscus and just had yet another "sprain". When we went to pick her up last night and she came out with her crutches I swear it took every bit of self control to not say anything to her about it. It has now been an entire month and she is STILL hobbling around on crutches and in a full leg brace. Seriously, how long do you need crutches and a full on leg brace for a sprain?!?! To me this is more overkill and attention seeking crap. My guess is she will drag it out until Christmas. Have to keep those spotlight crutches long enough to get everyone's sympathy. However, most people (at least in my family) aren't feeding into it. I brought it up to SO today because I just can't hold my tongue about it any longer. I think it is ridiculous. He admitted that it is driving him crazy as well. I guess last night she told him, "look I can put pressure on my leg now" and he actually responded, "you should be able to and you shouldn't be going to the dr all the time for sprains". I guess SD didn't like that response. Oh well! I told him he needs to make it more of an inconvenience than a fun thing for her. Tell her she can't do things she wants to do b/c it could get hurt worse. Make her rest more....just something that makes it less desirable to fake an injury. I know we can't count on BM to make it less desirable. I'm surprised she hasn't bought her an electric wheelchair yet!
Okay, rant over!
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This would annoy the h@ll out
This would annoy the h@ll out of me also. She's babying that sprain like she had an amputation. Why doesn't your H talk to her and let her know that having a sprain happens & it's not that serious. God forbid she breaks a leg will she be bedridden for the rest of her days.....Its just unreal!
Oh, last year it was a "break
Oh, last year it was a "break" at the exact same time of year as this "severe injury" right before her final cheer competition. Except after multiple xrays and mris and whatever other imaging options were available the break never showed! It is unreal. SO and I had a talk with her when she had a "severe shoulder sprain" after falling on our trampoline and being fine until 3 days later at BMs house. We talked about how she needed to stop overexaggerating injuries and while she can't control whether BM rushes her to the dr she can control telling BM if she is in real pain or not. We also told her that injuries aren't something to play around with and if she actually gets injured we won't believe her because of all the fake injuries. I forget what else we said but it was pointless obviously.
I am dreading if she ever gets a real injury because she will totally milk it out the rest of her life!!!!!
LOL, make it harder and less fun!
At dinner last night, Munchkin mentioned how Toxic Feral was no longer a pescatarian, because it was "too hard". I made a comment "oh wow, all those days, weeks, years of special meals!"
Yeah, like when your SD gets her high maintenance lifestyle catered to, and then she moves out and ghosts her family, and has to maintain her high maintenance lifestyle herself and shes basically too lazy to maintain a difficut diet if she has to provide for herself...
When your SD gets catered to - yep, she will continue this. Like when Munchkin SD fell and her mother kept her out of school. And she was sick (for one day) and kept her out of school. And this morning complains of a "tense feeling in her abdomen". DH laughed her straight.
Time to get tough and make it not fun anymore!!!
Exactly! I am the only one
Exactly! I am the only one that makes it less desirable. With her "shoulder sprain" she needed like 3 weeks of PT. Yet she was still picking up my 50lb son and wanting to do stuff. Every time I told her nope, you can't do that, you need to sit down, you need to rest, nope, you can't mow for money, you're to hurt. This time with the crutches I try to make it inconvenient also, she always wants to cook welp sorry not enough room in the kitchen with your crutches, go sit down please. I need to find more ways to make it less fun for her now. I desperately want to tell her that she can't come pick out a tree with us b/c of crutches but I know SO won't go for that because even though he agrees with me he can't actually follow through with upsetting his little snowflake! Ugh!
Sung to the Tune of "I'll Be Home For Christmas"
"I'll be LAME for Christmas"
"You can SOB for meeeeeee"
"
LOL!
LOL!
Haha Perfect Timing!
Great interpretation of the classic original, perfect soundtrack for Crutches McGee.
I have had 2 severe ankle
I have had 2 severe ankle sprains, one which I actually did need crutches for (for like a week) because I could not walk on it at all, and the 2nd time I couldn't walk on it for 1 day. Both times the bottom of my foot was almost black from the sprain. Both times I didn't have a leg brace (well, I did the first time but I didn't really wear it), and could walk on it within a week. I am quite certain there is no sprain in the world that would require crutches and a leg brace for a full month. One thing I love about my SO is that when something with skids is obviously bullshit, he calls it and would just tell them, enough, you can walk on it, stop with the dramatics.
I don't have much patience for attention-seeking behavior.
I was kind of hoping to hear
I was kind of hoping to hear from someone with an actual injury for comparison. Sometimes I think maybe I am being harsh but the amount of "severe" injuries that always come back with minor results is ridiculously long with this child. Plus she seeks attention constantly even when not injured!
She had slight swelling the first day and that was it. This is her knee not her ankle. I feel like a sprained ankle would be worse. But yes, an entire month now even after the results of "sprain". She always gets a result of "sprain or strain" or whatever and then physical therapy. I wish my SO would be more like yours on this. I think BM is in on the sickness of enjoying the attention or something. Otherwise she wouldn't be wasting all this time and money and energy taking her to the dr every other day!
I have zero patience for it now after dealing with this EXTREME attention seeker! I try to avoid her when she is at my house b/c I just can't fake nice about it anymore.
I had a real bad sprain...
... where three months later they xrayed to see if it might be a hairline fracture, but nope - just a bad sprain.
No crutches ever, just kept my leg up for a few days (including on my desk becsuse no, I didn't take time off work). You are spot-on in identifying these theatrical, predictable "injuries" are manipulations.
Sorry you 're dealing with this!
She'll be Drivin'
Sung to the Tune of "She'll Be Comin' 'Round The Mountain When She Comes"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l42FxKm4r_Q
She'll be driving in a rascal when she comes
She'll be driving in a rascal when she comes
She'll be driving in a rascal, She'll be driving in a rascal,
She'll be driving in a rascal when she comes
She'll be charging up those batteries when she comes
She'll be charging up those batteries when she comes
She'll be charging up those batteries, She'll be charging up those batteries
She'll be charging up those batteries when she comes
Oh we'll all go out to see her iron lung
Oh we'll all go out to see her iron lung
Oh we'll all go out to see her, Oh we'll all go out to see her
Oh we'll all go out to see her iron lung
She'll be wearing backless gownies when she comes
She'll be wearing backless gownies when she comes
She'll be wearing backless gownies, She'll be wearing backless gownies
She'll be wearing backless gownies when she comes
She will have to sleep with Daaaaddeeeeeeee when she comes
She will have to sleep with Daaaaddeeeeeeee when she comes
She will have to sleep with Daaaaddeeeeeeee, She will have to sleep with Daaaaddeeeeeeee
She will have to sleep with Daaaaddeeeeeeee when she comes
She'll be wearing out death's doormat when she comes
She'll be wearing out death's doormat when she comes
(She'll be wearing out death's doormat, She'll be wearing out death's doormat
She'll be wearing out death's doormat when she comes
Lol. This is awesome. I just
Lol. This is awesome. I just love saying Rascal scooter.
LMAO, this is great! That is
LMAO, this is great! That is her for sure! I swear if she shows up tonight with those crutches you might all see me on an episode of Snapped!!!!
You know this is SD. M.O.
New injury at same time as last year. You are not going to change her. She likes plying that game. This goes under disengage from her and her M.O. She likes drama , and the horse and ponie show.
I know I can't change her
I know I can't change her especially when BM basically encourages it and SO won't make it less appealing. I do try to disengage but man it is ANNOYING!!!!!! I don't give her the sympathy and attention she craves.
I think someone up above
I think someone up above suggested keeping her down while she fakes it. I totally agree! No fun stuff if she's hurt. Put it off until she's "all healed up and doctor verified it". Make her life over there so f'n boring! Worked on my bios when they faked being sick. All kids try it, when you fall for it and they win, you have lost that war. IMO
Bueller, Bueller, Bueller..........
LOL, I think I was the one
LOL, I think I was the one that suggested it. The problem is SO won't go along with that. It is like he is afraid to say no to her or make her miss out on anything. Typical guilty daddy syndrome. Yesterday was the first time he actually even admitted that he is as annoyed with the attention seeking and fake injuries as I am. I told him he has to make it less appealing or it will never stop....and it has already gone on so long that it is going to be hard to even try to stop!
LMAO. I thought i was reading
LMAO. I thought i was reading an old blog when I saw this one again.
LOL, probably thought it was
LOL, probably thought it was my blog from over a month ago, amazing how long this act can carry on!
What kind of brace is she
What kind of brace is she wearing? I broke my kneecap and tore the ACL back when I was in high school. It required surgery, a $600 brace, crutches, and physical therapy. .
Well sounds like you had an
Well sounds like you had an actual injury! I'm not sure the exact name/description of the brace but it is almost the size of her leg. Comes well above and below her knee, has velcro, maybe some metal for stability. It is a pretty intense brace for a sprain and I am pretty sure it is the brace that she just kept from a year ago for her "break". I figured an ace bandage would be sufficient for a sprain. Her and BM basically have every medical supply on hand by now. She already had the crutches as well.
I believe
she is milking it although when DH sprained his knee he was indeed in a hip to ankle leg brace and on crutches for almost six weeks. That being said, he already has a bad knee from military service and his doctors are trying to prevent a knee replacement and are losing that battle.
I am sure that in some cases
I am sure that in some cases this is neccessary. Also I am sure your DH is older than 11 and our bodies age and injuries are more severe because we are older.
I had a minor-ish sprain when
I had a minor-ish sprain when I was about that age and just toughed it out.
Guess what - it's never been right again. I've injured the same ankle again and again and now have a whole host of problems related to that one stupid injury and a mother who made me walk to church on it because she didn't believe in anyone else's injuries or illness. I am now paying a lot of money right now to walk like a normal person.
Rest and PT.
As to the emotional bullshittery and spotlight grabbing - the injury can be real, but they don't have to milk it. They do need to respect it though.
I understand if there is an
I understand if there is an actual injury that it needs to be treated properly. However, with monthly "severe injuries" it is really hard to believe at this point and the fact that it is always the same time of the year. Don't worry she isn't toughing out anything!
I literally broke my arm and
I literally broke my arm and proceeded to go show jumping in my cast... Took off my boot, left it on the sideline and played soccer when I had several fractures in my foot, one of which was a spiral fracture... Went to get wings like a few hours after I had surgery... Threw some KT tape (a lot of it) on a herniated ab muscle and kept swmming 6 hours a day 6 days a week.... I've had sprains too, but those aren't even worth mentioning because I basically pretended they didn't exist.
Your SD is a baby. I really hope eventually she learns that life is so much better lived if you suck up some of the injuries and keep going. I can't even imagine what it would be like to baby myself so much that I missed on on TONS of things!!! Life is so much better when you suck some of these things up!
The problem is that she doesn
The problem is that she doesn't miss out on what she still wants to do. She gets out of what she doesn't want to do and then gets coddled and enjoys being catered to. This is the SD that one time got a bell from her mommy to ring whenever she needed anything....she had a cold! She is very much a baby and IMO a faker!
Everytime she is around I
Everytime she is around I would be moving furniture to make it more difficult for her to manuver and keep throwing a ball to her while she is standing, get her to drop the crutches to catch the ball lol
Remember this is all comming from a cripple in the first place, I really hate posers !!!!!
LMAO, I like your ideas. I
LMAO, I like your ideas. I do try to make it difficult and unappealing for her. I will get home before her and SO tonight. I am totally going to rearrange a little.
How many cows do you have by
How many cows do you have by now? Because your SD is milking this injury beyond belief.
I had a sprained ankle and cracked foot. I didn't have time for a cast. It was a week of real pain and a second week of actual healing. By week three I was fine and by week four my doctor signed me off as being without injury.
Only sign of anything being wrong, was that some people noticed that I wore unremarkable dark (ballet style) slippers to work rather than normal shoes.
But then I am not an attention/ sympathy seeking fruit cake...
LMAO, exactly! I think I
LMAO, exactly! I think I should have a whole freaking farm of cows by now with this one and all of her medical issues!
It is nice to hear other's experience with sprains/etc. Sometimes I feel just the teensiest itty bittiest bad about never believing her but it is seriously a monthly occurence with this child and always BIG injuries before any holiday where you get together with family....
My older son is the same age and he has had 1 SEVERE injury and it was an actual break that required pins in his arm. He was 5 at the time and handled it like a champ. He actually tried to continue playing on the park afterward holding his arm in place so it wouldn't hurt. I can't imagine how SD would handle an actual injury!