I just can't stand my SD
I don't know if anyone will even respond to this, but I feel like just venting about it might help. My SD is nearly 12, and I just can't stand her. We rarely see her. My SO has to fight in court for everything, and his ex wife is such a see you next Tuesday that she deliberately makes everything extra difficult. When he ended the marriage, she took the kid and moved to a neighbouring province to move in with her mother. It's a solid 10 hour drive each way. My SD is here for a little over two weeks .We're halfway through, and I don't know how I'm going to make it without coming unglued.
My own daughter is 18 and out on her own. She was in figure skating and competitive dance, so I was always around lots of girls of all ages and have a pretty good idea of what a 12 year old should be able to do. I can't deal with my sd's immaturity! She has a temper tantrum when told to shower because she doesn't want water to touch her face. She won't rinse her hair. She's incapable of putting it in a ponytail. She can't close the window blinds. She can't figure out how to stop a show with the remote in her hand. There are about six things she'll eat, and they're all garbage. She whines, throws tantrums, talks back, and talks to her dad like a baby. She's defiant and very passive aggressive. She should be wearing a bra, she is getting pimples, her body is visibly changing. She has entered puberty and still has the maturity of a dim 5 year old.
This is, obviously, causing serious relationship problems. Don't tell me I'm a bitch. I'm aware. Just tell me I'm not the only one.
Took me a minute to figure
Took me a minute to figure out what see you next Tuesday meant lol
And you're not a bitch, you're reasonable. Only one more week! Count down the minutes. Eat cake every night to celebrate another day passing.
what a nightmare, i bet you
what a nightmare, i bet you wish you could just pack up and visit a sick relative and come back when the lil monster is gone. At least you are not a full time step mom so you aint gotta deal with her crap on a daily basis.
You’re not the only one! I’ve
You’re not the only one! I’ve dealt with my SD since she was 11. She’s a nightmare too. Rude, disrespectful, selfish, inconsiderate, aggressive bully.
Oh my word. Thank you! You
Oh my word. Thank you! You have no idea how validating your comments have been! There seems to be some sort of expectation that we should like and enjoy every child, and I just can't like or enjoy her. It's gotten to the point where I am petty about her. I can't stand the way she whines Daddddyyyyyyy. I can't stand that we buy her an entire wardrobe every time we see her (not this time!) only to have her return with worn out, stained, ripped, mismatched rags in her suitcase. My own daughter has always been a very girly fashionista sort, likely due in large part to growing up surrounded by dancers. I have zero expectation of my SD to be that way. However, I cringe when it's time to leave the house and she's wearing a red, stained t-shirt with pink, pilled sweat pants and an orange camo trucker hat over greasy looking (unrinsed,) messy hair. With purple Crocs. I'm not even exaggerating. I could go buy another $300 worth of clothes for her, but I'll never see them again, and she'll return next time with the orange hat and pink sweats that aren't in good enough condition to donate to Goodwill. She doesn't have to be stylish or in fashion. She doesn't have to wear expensive clothes. I'd settle for clean, correctly fitting, and semi coordinated.
Dreadful SD struggles
Hi everyone, it’s not just you step-moms who are suffering, I’m a stepdad with 2 sons of my own and 2 horrid stepchildren.
my SD is extremely difficult, her mum and I have recently married and absolutely love each other to bits, but this SD is driving me insane and constantly proving to be difficult.
she is 11, going on 5.
She sneaks around the house, listens outside our bedroom door, talks like a baby, acts like a toddler, it’s always me me me, she thinks she is the most amazing and important girl ever to walk this planet (and by Christ she certainly is NOT). She is extremely jealous, has absolute zero empathy or compassion for anyone, finds people hurting themselves hilarious but god forbid anyone who laughs at her.
My son has tried in the past to get along with her, he is such an easy going boy (12), never brought us any trouble whatsoever. But, in the past whenever he’d win a race, she’d sulk and moan, whenever he got something new, she’d moan, whenever he was congratulated, she’d try and take the limelight and sulk if she never got it.
My son doesn’t bother with her now and we all live together.
She used to speak to her mum like dirt, until I started to not allow it.
She has caused ENDLESS amounts of disruption between her mum and I, my son has caused ZERO.
I am rapidly coming to the end of my tether, I don’t feel comfortable in our own home, she sneaks about and makes my son and I feel very awkward whenever she is around, she really is very cringey and it’s hard to feel comfortable around her. I’ve tried so hard.
My DW is very understanding and I am able to vent a little to her, but I feel awful saying just how bad it is because my DW is so lovely and I feel bad for her.
She plays on her mum so much, she knows that her mum won’t say NO. She puts on a pathetic voice when asking for things and when her mum gives in she smirks when her mum isn’t looking, she is so fake it’s blatant.
theres so so much more what she does, so much so I’ve joined a chat room to vent my absolute frustrations with this little b!tch.
Im not mean and I’m very fair, but she behaves and acts in such a way that it’s hard not to dislike her with a passion.
My DS on the other hand is an amazing boy, and that’s not just because he is mine, because my eldest son irritates me too (but he doesn’t live with us), but not a patch on that spoilt little whinging brat.
No doubt I’ll vent a ton more on here, she is 11 so unless a miracle happens, the future is going to be tough.
Thanks for letting me vent!
Vent away! Sounds like my
Vent away! Sounds like my horrid SD