So my husband and I have been together 10 years. He had a 6 year old daughter who lived with his ex girlfriends parents as his ex didn't no her with kid... was into drugs etc. He was married after being with his girlfriend, and be fore being with me. His ex wife died and then me and him met. When the ex gilfriend found out he was dating me she blocked his number from the grandparents T's house, smashed his car up if he went to see child o assaulted him in the streets. She would even phone the police and make up he was the one being violent.  So he gave up. 3 years ago the child appeared on facebook and had chats with him. I encouraged him and he went and met her. He took her shopping. Then the messages that have been coming since then have all been "I want this, I want that". Not once has she said "hi dad how are you?". He works 6 days a week from 6 am until 8pm. He has not got any free time, not that she want his time anyway. She is now 17 and finished school at 16. She is working and has got her own place. Still every week she begs for money, saying she has no food etc. 3 weeks ago she called me a home wrecking w***e because he didn't reply quick enough to her message for money. My husband and I arguded. He said send her money, just keep her quiet. Today she has asked for money again, I told her he was in work and would reply later. To which she then said well u do it. Ive had enough so I told her, "I'm not sending u my money as u have never said anything nice about me, if ur father wants to send u his money that's fine." To this she wrote that she wants to smash my face in and I should cause I'm his wife and he has 2 daugters etc etc. Our child is 4. I have ignored the other incoming messages as I know they are all abuse. She has threatened to "beat me up and smash my face in" many a time, bt now she's 17 etc I don't think I should put up with it. My husband never sticks up for me or tells her she cant behave like this..... he just sends her money.... what do I do???