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Paintcrisis's picture

Submitted by Paintcrisis on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 9:02am

So this one guy I’ve been seeing, has me on alert now. Friday night we went out. It took an hour to get to where we were going. During the ride, he had a nonstop texting session with his older son. That’s not what bothered me. It’s the content of it:

His kids were at the grandparents farm for the weekend. The BGM (BM grandma) was lecturing and threatening punishment to the kids because they got into some serious trouble this week at school.

So SS was complaining about BGM to his dad and his dad was responding with things like: 

grandma is wrong

She can’t tell me how to parent (in response to BGM’s suggestion that they get a lecture from the cops too)

Im not paying for a babysitter for you two (in response to her rant about they need supervision because they can’t be trusted).

Well, grandma needs to learn that if she acts like this, you aren’t going to want to come see her anymore.

And on and on. . .

I don’t know about you all but I would be seriously angry if I knew my Ex was doing that. He pretty much told the kids that BM and BGM were wrong.

As for what happened: YSS beat up a kid on the playground after school one day. OSS just let it happen, as he was watching YSS. Dad’s response to this was: you better not tell mom about this.

I don’t think I’m available anymore to him, hahahah

What do you all think? Am I touchy? Or would you be concerned too? Custody is about 60/40 with BM getting more of it.

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beebeel's picture

Submitted by beebeel on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 9:10am

Time to RUN. You aren't touchy at all. That is Grade A shit parenting right there.

Willow2010's picture

Submitted by Willow2010 on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 9:20am

Oh Paint...you know the answer to this.  You really do.  Biggrin

He sounds like a terrible father!!

Paintcrisis's picture

Submitted by Paintcrisis on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 10:08am

Well, I just want to make sure I’m not crazy touchy from my abusive ex. . .

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 9:22am

That's not touchy.... BM is an absolute piece of s*** and we're still careful not to down talk things. Only thing I've really spoken against her on was when she told SD9 that drugs are "only bad for growing children." But instead of telling her she was wrong, I pulled out some science and the fact your brain is still developing in your 20s and that if you do drugs on an already developed body, it can do damage to what you have and make it less effective... Other than that, we think it's rather cruel to put the skids in a situation where they feel that both families are at odds... It puts them in the predicament of having to choose who to believe, and honestly that can get rather upsetting for them. This isn't even involving the ex... It's cruel to the kids. It basically makes them start picking sides and learnign to play their parents against each-other.

ESMOD's picture

Submitted by ESMOD on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 9:44am

Run....seriously undermining his own mother??? It would be YOU next if you ever dared to correct his snookies.

Myss.Tique D'Off's picture

Submitted by Myss.Tique D'Off on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 9:50am

No thanks. Mr!  Next?

You wouldnt be asking the question if you didnt already know this whole situation is wrong and a mess you dont need to get involved in. 

marblefawn's picture

Submitted by marblefawn on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 9:55am

Absolutely run like the wind!!!!!

Can you imagine what he'll say when it happens and you're on STEPMOTHER DUTY?????

Daisymazy2's picture

Submitted by Daisymazy2 on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 10:06am

It is easy to turn a blind eye when we are "just dating".  I look back now to how DH treated precious SD and I should have ran away.  I didn't see the signs until it was too late.  

ndc's picture

Submitted by ndc on Mon, 05/14/2018 - 11:56am

Agree with everyone else.  This is a situation and a guy you do NOT want to get involved with.