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Submitted by dadoutwest on Tue, 05/01/2018 - 3:38pm

So, I posted earlier about my significant other. The responses were at times vitriolic. My partner is not a "b", and people should be hesitant to throw out the name calling. All of the stories, though true from my perspective, come with unseen bias and missing context. Advice and questions for further introspection were good. However, the judgement seems to harsh in this place. People seem to go down a rabbit hole of resentment and then feed off of each other. My partner is wonderful. She is strong and kind. Obviously her perspective was missing. She is not needy or a "b". She is generous beyond imagination. Caring beyond reproach. Always considerate and affectionate. Unselfish in every way. She bought lots of stuff for me and the kids. 

Thanks.

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Submitted by I love dogs on Tue, 05/01/2018 - 3:46pm

You did make her out to be jealous and insecure. Why is it wrong to do yoga with your daughter? Didn't you two do that before wife was in the picture? Also, you said she moved out. Why? 

If you spent 6 days with her going on "dates" and wining/ dining her, why was she so upset you spent ONE lunch with your son? Jealous and insecure is all that comes to mind for me....

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Tue, 05/01/2018 - 3:53pm

She's unselfish and gracious, but you felt she was being abusive toward your daughter.

She's kind and giving, but upset that you went to lunch with your son and yoga with your daughter (a grand total of 4 hours with your kids with travel included).

Either she is wonderful or she isn't. You were VERY harsh about your wife and VERY forgiving of your kids. You painted her as a B. If that wasn't your intention, then now would be a good time to clarify.

So, does she have issues with you spending 4 hours with your kids, and is she abusive to your daughter, or is she wonderful?

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Tue, 05/01/2018 - 5:29pm

OP, when you described your SO, you painted  a picture of the stereotypical SM.  That is an image that many posters here fight everyday.  

The responses you received were based on the information YOU provided.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Tue, 05/01/2018 - 4:48pm

The vision you present today is very different than the one people saw the other day.  The person you described before begrudged your daughter the time spent in a yoga class because she wanted ownership over that activity.  She also didn't like you going to have a lunch with your son.. even though you had been spending gobs of time with her.  That doesn't "sound" like someone who is generous beyond compare.  That sounds like someone who is very resentful of time you spend with your children. I wouldn't have called her a B.. but I might have thought that perhaps Steplife wasn't for her if she wasn't able to share her spouse for relatively little things and amounts of time.

If we got it all wrong... I guess I'm not sure what you were trying to ask us... either there ARE issues with her and the kids.. or there aren't.

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Submitted by 24 years as a SM on Tue, 05/01/2018 - 5:40pm

Please inform you wife of this site, so we can get both sides to this "Story" Too many blanks and too much back peddling.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Tue, 05/01/2018 - 7:27pm

Should we request both sides of the "story"  when a SM posts about her husband, SKs, BM or MIL?

 

 

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Submitted by Dovina on Wed, 05/02/2018 - 6:58am

and she has hijacked his computer. Cant wait for the next post

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Submitted by DarkStar on Wed, 05/02/2018 - 10:22am

Dude. Go join one of those "mommy" blogs if you want someone to spew unicorn glitter-farts all over the place.