Is it petty of me to laugh about this?
Plans for our summer wedding are in full force. SO's son lives across country and his ex-girlfriend booked their flights so his son can be in the wedding. He gets along with his ex and she & I have been friendly too. No problems there - she is a sane, normal BM. She will also attend our wedding with her husband and daughter. When SO & I were sharing our excitement about it, I realized that BM1 (the nutty one) will be PISSED that the ex-gf will attend our wedding and she'll be left out in the cold. I literally busted out laughing. The ex-gf is the one he took up with after he & BM1 broke up and BM1 was livid when gf got pregnant with a son! I'm waiting for the drama to ensue. Hopefully I'm wrong and she won't even care.
SO's niece is having a bday party at a bowling alley on Sat. BM1 had their oldest daughter call to see if its ok if she (BM) comes too. This should be interesting cause the extended family doesn't like her. She doesn't get invited to anything. I'll just sit back and watch; there has to be a reason she wants to come to this party. I haven't even told this to SO yet - he's going to be pissed.
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Stay classy
Who uses their kid to invite themselves to an ex's family party? Whackadoo!
My SD's BM showed up at our
My SD's BM showed up at our bday party for SD after we specifically told her that she was not welcome. Brought her bf and his kids and everything. It was SO's family and my family, no one from BM's side of the family b/c we don't communicate with them. BM was having her own party for SD the following day - I told SO we should just show up to her house for the party and see how she liked it!
BM showed uninvited to ours
BM showed uninvited to ours last weekend! Hadn't heard a WORD from her since Christmas and then BOOM! Shows up without an invite. I. Was. Pissed. Also haven't heard form her since. Apparently she decided that was adequate contact with SD5 for her birthday. The beastie. Hope she enjoys getting served...
PA, I was also pissed that BM
PA, I was also pissed that BM did that at ours. Also, prior to the party SO was supposed to pick SD up from school. He got to her school and she had been signed out early by BM. BM knew he was supposed to be getting her for the party. She took her to get her hair cut and colored. Didn't answer any of SO's text so SO had no clue where she was - SO went to BM's mom's house b/c she is the other person that gets her from school her mom acted like she had no clue what was going on. SO went off and told her he would be calling the cops then...so then all of the sudden BM called SO back and told him where they were to come get SD. Sent him on a wild goose chase. Then showed up at the party after we told her not to and then after the party told SO that she was going to go by the CO for drop off/pick ups from then on b/c she felt "threatened" by him.....who in the hell crashes a party they weren't invited to and then claims that they feel threatened by that person!?!? If you feel threatened by someone you don't antagonize them and insert yourself into that position!
Oh the drama... Ours just
Oh the drama... Ours just showed up after two months of ZERO contact... With her druggie bf in tow... The proceeded to pull the girls off things to take selfies with them... Seeing red doesn't even begin to describe how I was feeling.
Oh yes "threatened." Becuase you didn't agree to something and then go against it and dodge... I'm rolling my eyes for you. She sounds like quite the charmer there. LMAO
@ PA - I feel your rage with
@ PA - I feel your rage with the druggie BM and BF. My son's father would pull that kind of crap. He is incarcerated now so we don't have to deal with all that heartache. Although him being incarcerated has been really hard on my son it has def been easier for me knowing he can't just show up places.
OMG, she is a charmer alright, I guess this wasn't the first time she used the "feels threatened" excuse either. My SO's BF (who hates BM with a passion) told me a story about when they first split and SO was sleeping in his apt. He wakes up to his car being gone. The one in the agreement he was allowed to keep. She kept the nicer new one of course. Well come to find out that she went over there while he was asleep and took it and parked it in her garage. SO was irate and wanted to go over and get it. Thankfully his BF is more level headed and told him to let him go handle it. When BF got there she tried to tell him that if the cops were called she would just say that she felt threatened by SO. BF told her, okay, good luck, I'm sure the police will buy that story. You are so scared of him yet you went and took his car while he was asleep for absolutely no reason and now he can't go to work?!?! She then let him take the car back to SO!
These HCBMs are no joke! They make life hell for anyone and everyone and act as if they are doing it for the children!
I am just thankful to have this site and no I am not alone in my struggles.
"For the children" AKA "I
"For the children" AKA "I have no clue what I'm doing, don't give a s*** about the kids either, but I do have this desire to make everyone's life a living he!! and cause issues so that I can feel like I control everything!"
Exactly! SO's BF apparently
Exactly! SO's BF apparently told her that he couldn't figure out how she was twisting this into what is best for SD. SD was like 2 at the time. He asked her how stealing SO's car (just b/c she could) and preventing him from going to work and then calling the cop and acting scared of SO would do any good for SD. I guess she couldn't explain how that was "in SD's best interest" LOL!
Wow - your BM is a nutcase
Wow - your BM is a nutcase too. Some people just thrive on drama - I don't get it
I don't get it either. I
I don't get it either. I just know it is exhausting. I am thankful for the advice we get here though. Disengaging from SD and BM was a much needed move in my life and I wouldn't have figured that out without advice from Stalk!
She is
Any time she has to communicate with SIL, she has her daughters do it
Don'tcha love it when exes
Don'tcha love it when exes get pissy about being left out of a wedding????
What IS it with people who think they deserve an invitation to stuff just because they squeezed one out?
Not petty
Can I just say, I hate having to type a "subject" each time I comment??
anyway, I don't think you are being petty. And who just shows up at a party they have not been invited too, much less an EXES and his new wife's party?? That takes some serious balls! or just batshit.
It is lame
I agree about the subject line for comments. Very annoying.
you can just leave it blank.
you can just leave it blank.
Really?
Really? Sweet! Thank you.
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Every time I try to leave it blank, it won't post my comment and kicks me out.
Agreed
Hate having to type a subject line
She's nuts
She's nuts
Never tell a crazy BM what
Never tell a crazy BM what your plans are. Most often, that also means not telling the skids what your plans are either. Last birthday SD knew we booked a bowling alley, but she didn't know when or where. She didn't know about our wedding until the morning of.
We didn't tell the skids
We didn't tell the skids until after we had gotten married at the courthouse. Then it was just "Guess what we did today?!" LOL
I agree
I don't want BM1 to know about any of the plans but of course SO tells his daughters stuff cause he's so excited about the plans. So, she's bound to find out. In my gut, I think she'll try to keep SD16 from coming to the wedding.