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Is she serious? Now your daughter has Asperger's?

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Submitted by lostmommy on Mon, 10/22/2012 - 6:20pm

So I need to vent just a little bit...

DH has a 12yo DD from his previous marriage. We have been together for nearly 8 years now and have two kids. -5 and 1 month- Today, like so many other days, I posted a pic of our new baby girl on DH facebook wall with the tittle "Daddy's little girl", (This is the only pic on his was so far with that tittle) and it seems that the ex has a hair up her ass like DH is replacing his fist born! She quickly likes the picture, ( yes DH has added her on Facebook so that he can receive pictures of SD, BM is horrible about sending pictures and they live out of state.) Then calls DH crying telling him that a few weeks ago DD was diagnosed with Asperger's!!! WTF??? She goes on to say that DD has been acting out and she had taken her to a therapist where after 30 minutes of talking, the diagnosis was made. I'm sorry but I have known this girl for 8 years of her life, and she DOES NOT have any indications of Asperger's or any other mental disability or syndrome. I believe this was a ploy to get DH attention focused on his DD. I just want to tell her "Please grow the hell up!!! If your DD is having issues at school and needs a talking to, Take care of it! And if she still needs a talking to, then our phone is always on and available, but DO NOT bring this crap to us, weeks later! I know what you are about and I know your mind games! DH's DD is his first born, and no one will never replace her, but I do have a right to coin our DD as Daddy's little girl, Daddy's Princess and so on. And no I will not feel one ounce of guilt!!!"

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Mon, 10/22/2012 - 6:58pm

So, how much do you know about Asperger's that you think you can diagnose her? I mean, really...geez...

Besides that, sorry, your DH is an idiot for having BM on his page and you should then NOT share anything that is on YOUR page with your DH in his newsfeed...he should just go to your page if he wants to see something...You have control over all of this, not sure why you allow them to have access to your kid's stuff.

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Mon, 10/22/2012 - 6:58pm

Crazy women!! When I was married to my exh, he had a 6 yr old daughter. DD was born and this crazy woman had SD in the emergency room once a week. SD even called one day to tell DH she had brain cancer and her brain hurt!!

This went on for years until I finally divorced his ass. Then of course she wants to be friends!

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Submitted by stressgirl79 on Mon, 10/22/2012 - 7:08pm

My SD10 and SS12 learned their dramatic ways from their BM, too. Every time they have an ache or a pain, it's instantly blown out of proportion and they miss a week of school. The interesting part is that she never takes them to the doctor. That would be time out of her day, I guess. So when she tells them that their headaches are migraines and they need to be lying in a dark room with towels on their foreheads, they believe her. Uh no, the headache is from never peeling your eyes from the computer screen! Don't need to be an MD to diagnose that.

Sounds like your BM has some serious jealousy issues. I would definitely make sure nothing you post is in any way visible to her on FB so as not to even stir the pot. Some people just love a reason to be a victim.

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Submitted by lostmommy on Mon, 10/22/2012 - 7:20pm

I remember her once telling DH that she was dying... DYING!!! I mean come on... I was in the car and could hear their conversation from the driveway where they were standing. She does this when she feels the need for attention from DH. She used to call on very important dates like my birthday or our anniversary asking for things like CS or help with discipline... once she called on the day my brother died after reading hubby's post on Facebook about the loss just to ask about DH tax money!!!! :jawdrop: I think I will give her one more chance, and if she has another jealous fit again, I will be deleting her from DH page.

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Submitted by lostmommy on Mon, 10/22/2012 - 7:24pm

Come to think of it, I think DH is fearful of calling our DD his princess or anything to that nature on his page just because of what BM would do. And its not like he left her for me, She cheated on him and left him!!! Why is she so worried about us? DH "Liked" a pic on Facebook that said: " Never get jealous if you see your ex with someone else because your mother taught you to give your used toys to the less fortunate." his ex was the first person to like it and comment on it. She put "LOL"!!! Cra Cra!

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Submitted by LRP75 on Tue, 10/23/2012 - 5:17am

Autism is not diagnosed in a 1/2 hour of talk therapy. It can sometimes take YEARS of interventions to come up with a correct diagnosis. And the diagnose isn't made by just a therapist - it would also include input from teachers, physicians, and other caretakers.

What I'm saying is that there is a HUGE paper trail that leads to a proper diagnosis of any type of autism.

I know because my BS is on the spectrum and is high functioning. So it took until the 5th grade to really figure out what was going on with him. His assessment included an intense four-part examination: bio, social, educational, and psychological - with input from all of his teachers, his principal, and all of his family members.

It would behoove your H to ask BM to send him all of the reports. If she can't produce reports, then she is full of shit and it's just a ploy.

BM over here has told SS that he is autistic. It's the most ridiculous claim I have ever heard. He is NOT autistic. He looks Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and she uses autism to deflect the way he looks.

ON ANOTHER NOTE: Why did it takes WEEKS for her to call him and tell him about this "diagnosis?"