I guess it really never ends.
You really think that once the skid is gone and out of the house, and deployed, that the BM would back off. But noooooo.
She has been texting my DH every morning at about 6:00AM. It has only been for 3 days, but still. GAH. I just really did think it would end. But it seems to have picked up a little. YAY for me!! NOT.
And all she wants is to know if DH has talked to SS. That’s it and it is usually only one or two texts, but it still makes me want to kick the shit out of someone.
I really wish my ex was around so I could run to him every time some crap like this happens. I would love to rub that in DH’s face. And yes. I am being childish. Lol
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I really wish my ex was
I really wish my ex was around so I could run to him every time some crap like this happens. I would love to rub that in DH’s face. And yes. I am being childish. Lol
^^^^ ME TOO!!!
Oh dear Lord.... I'm telling
Oh dear Lord.... I'm telling you right now.... the nano-second that SS turns 18 and is graduated from high school (like that will happen.. but I digress) DH better be laying down the law with BM about how she is to no longer contact him AT ALL unless there is some type of terrible emergency which makes SS unable to do so on his own. I will also insist on being present for this conversation so that I KNOW that DH laid down the law and didn't just pussy foot around for fear of pissing off the All Mighty Miss Precious.
DH has said many times that he can't wait for the day to tell her all of this... but sometimes he's a big talker. I'm telling you, I have been living for this damn day and if DH starts with excuses, or allows her to do the kind of crap your BM is doing? I.WILL.BE.GONE.
ARGHHHH Sorry Willow
Oh Daizy...DH used to say the
Oh Daizy...DH used to say the same shit.... "Once SS is out of HS, I will never have to talk to that bitch again." Oh Pulezzzz..
I know I am being petty, they really have not talked much in the last year at all, so I am not going to put my foot down on this, unless it really gets to be a habit. It just grates on my last damn nerve.
Once SS is out of HS, we will
Once SS is out of HS, we will never have to talk to that b@@@@ again."
^^^ That is what I say but to be honest I am concerned that she will weasel her way in every chance she gets! Graduation, weddings, grandbabies, ughhh!!! :sick:
As the parent of a deployed
As the parent of a deployed son with his father living in another country I consider it my job as a parent to notify his father if he calls and the general details.."Email: Hey, Heard from H. He is well. Got your parcel. He says thanks. As of this time he is safe and sound. He is out and about for the next few weeks... Oneoffour.
If this is their first child being deployed or even the first family member it is all a little scary. I know I had a few sleepless nights. You hope and pray that knock at the door isn't 2 men in uniform because then your world ends that day. I would cut her a little slack.
BUT in saying that your DH should text that he will let HER know if/when he hears from their son. Otherwise no news is good news and he will not be responding to her texts in future unless he has something to tell her.
your DH should text that he
your DH should text that he will let HER know if/when he hears from their son. Otherwise no news is good news and he will not be responding to her texts in future unless he has something to tell her.
^^^^ I LIKE this response!
As the parent of a deployed
As the parent of a deployed son with his father living in another country I consider it my job as a parent to notify his father if he calls and the general details..
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Were you a complete b!tch to your EX for MANY years? If not...I totally see where you are coming from. But she was such a terrible person for so long it still gets on my nerves.
And PS...SS is sleeping and playing ex box and is generally on a vacation. He "works" 3 hours a day and the rest is play time. (His words, not mine) I have more chance of something bad happening to me on my drive home today than he does for the next few years. lol
Yeah and doesn't your SS get
Yeah and doesn't your SS get on FB as well??? I mean it's not like he's deployed in Siberia and totally unreachable....
Yup, my son spent a lot of
Yup, my son spent a lot of downtime in the gym and hanging out with friend. But once he is acclimated he would be off 'on missions' and it may be a couple of weeks before we heard from him again. My son was not in the front line but did his share of 'nasty stuff'. It will change your SS eventually.
As for the BM, your DH really needs to make it clear that unless he hears something she needs to know he will not be responding to her texts or calls. Her past attitude and behaviour has totally ruined any possibility of good communication between them. So if he hears anything she will find out. Otherwise... no news is good news.
one of the BMs I have to deal
one of the BMs I have to deal with demands that I take a daily picture of the skids when we have them so she knows I didn't screw anything up. Since I don't have any bio kids, I am not qualified to watch skids apparently. I refuse to take the pics and she gets mad. BMs will always find something to complain about.
Daizy...he sure does get to
Daizy...he sure does get to get on FB.
It depends. There are certian
It depends. There are certian times when he cannot have access to FB and email. This is not the forum to discuss the details though.
I am sure he is getting used to the situation and they will have him earning his keep sooner or later. My son would FB with his sister but not me very much due to my work hours. He could text her but not me.
The thing is they are his parents. And as long as they communicate ONLY when the boy has contacted one of them it will be bearable. That knock on the door ... I would make DH answer the door for the entire time Armyson was away.
It's been almost 3 years
It's been almost 3 years since CS ended and Bitchface has called once. The sentence, "I have nothing to say to you", seemed to work pretty well. She hung up on my husband and has not called again. He warned her a long time ago that once CS was done, he would never have to talk to her again. Bonded for life my ass!
Even before that, he had gotten her trained to not call unless absolutely necessary, especially once SD had reached an age where she could communicate for herself. It was not the best way to co-parent but BM had made anything else impossible.
In my case...skid went to
In my case...skid went to college just a month ago I know...but calls haven't stopped much...afterall there is a 23 year old still at BM's to discuss too. BM is freaking out because CS stops next week. She says she is going to take SO back to court because she knows he's been making more money the last couple of years, and thinks he needs to pay her more Cs than he has paid. This man has never missed a check, and has paid for so many extras over the years, it ain't funny! He is going to pay half of skid dorm fees, and give her $200 every month, this is a little more than what he was paying in CS. He also pays around $375 a month for 23 year old school (this is his half). He told BM ...whatever you want to spend from here on please make sure you can afford the entire amount because I won't be splitting anything with you any more. He will be paying the schools direct and avoiding her. She is a control freak. He told her to take him back to court. The last 2 1/2 years he has had a new job, part owner, but he doesn't make that much as far as the court would be concerned, because there is a lot of business expenses, his actual salary isn't much more than on his past job of 12 years that CS was based on. On the other hand, when CS was ordered BM was working part time, and now she is working full time and has been for the last 4 years, so her income has gone up too. She loves to threaten people. I suspect the phone calls will slow down for a while since she's mad at him right now because he put a stop to her spending HIS money!