It's been a hell of a few weeks.

As a brief update, BM (I am now calling her warthog) drank herself into a coma a couple of weeks ago. She was hospitalized and strapped to her bed and we found out she has had HPV for several months and has not had it treated so she has been spreading it like wildfire. (Yay for the indigent population I represent and she hangs out with)She was then sent to the psych ward and her parents took guardianship.

There have been no phone calls and no visits and overall we have smoothed the kids into a routine, though it has been a struggle. She got released from the psych ward on Friday and has been on a non-stop bender for the past four days. Police have been called to her house three times and she has been wasted for pretty much 72 hours straight. It's been a very very long two weeks and there has been a lot of turmoil but it is what it is I suppose.

This morning the SD9 was helping me get the others ready for school and I just stopped, looked at her and told her how proud I am of her for being so strong through all of this. I told her that I loved her and that no matter how many times she may get on my nerves, I do recognize that she's a great kid. She started to sob. I thought I hurt her feelings but she just hugged me and thanked me for coming into her life. Then she asked me if we could go through her spelling list one more time because she was nervous about her quiz this morning.

I hate BM, I hate the fact that there are days I even resent the kids for all the stress, but this morning, well it was a good day. Now, if we can just keep that trend going, or this state is going to run out of alcohol.......

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There is no treatment for

There is no treatment for HPV, it is a virus. The only treatments that are available are for the diseases it causes (cervical cancer etc). HPV is very common with 50% of all sexually active men and women contracting it at some point in their life time.

I shouldn't have said

I shouldn't have said treatment, you are right there isn't treatment, I should have said without telling anyone she had it. Her current live in had no idea and so when he showed up to the hospital and her parents told him he hit the roof. He then told them she has been having unprotected sex with several men so he doubts she told them either. It's such a messed up situation.

SD9 is lucky to have you.

They told the SO because she

They told the SO because she is still covered under his insurance for the time being and they wanted to see what his insurance covered for treatment purposes (he works for a catholic hospital). Not sure why they told the BF and all I know is that SO was there when they told him and he was not pleased.

Apparently she had an

Apparently she had an outbreak (lesions which the doctor said weren't genital warts but were close....not sure what that means) and there were some treatment options they had at that point.

We must share the same BM!!!

We must share the same BM!!! It's beautiful that your SD9 is aware enough to appreciate you & communicate that to you!

One side note though, and I hate to be a downer: my SD15 was 11 when we went thru this with her mother, including all sorts of abuse & neglect prior to BM going to the mental hospital for several months. And as soon as BM was released and SD was able to start spending time with her mother again, it's like none of that shit ever happened. Mom is awesome & DH & I are the evil ones now.

I really hope that doesn't happen with your situation, but I tell you that just so you can prepare yourself to be kicked to the curb after all you will have done.

I am not sure that will be as

I am not sure that will be as much of a problem with SD9 as it will be with SD6. SD6 and SD2 look a lot like their mom so they were always her focus. SD9 has always been kind of ignored. I am worried that SD6, when mom gets her crap somewhat together, will resent her dad and I for keeping her away while she is like this. I hate that the kids have to go through this. I wouldn't care, and would probably be supportive if she said, "I know I have a problem and I want to fix it (don't think I can fix it, am not strong enough--choose your variation)" but when she thinks she has done nothing wrong and everyone else is to blame it's just absolute insanity.