Would a 4 year old say this?
BM sent DH her standard email saying he needs to see SD4 more and included a "direct" quote from SD. I guess BM was talking to SD about how she talks to DH on the phone and trying to get SD to be more talkative so SD supposedly said, "if he doesn't want to see me, then I don't want to talk to him"
I call BS on a 4yo saying that. I think it's just BM being her manipulative self and trying to get DH to deal the the problem she created. (SD4's behavior is atrocious, BM treats her like her best friend and doesn't discipline or set any boundaries)
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You could be talking about
You could be talking about SD9 and BM here. BM did the same crap to SD, starting when she was 7 and up until just rencently, and when SD would talk to DH she would say things that no 7 year old say, she had been coached many times how to respond to him. Even now, SD9 will state things and when questioned about "how do you know that" she replies, I just do. Yeah, right, you just do. The things she says sound exactly how BM talks. Total manipulation going on there. But, now that BM has less contact with SD, its tons easier to detect the BS that comes out of her mouth.
Our BM did the same thing
Our BM did the same thing with the skids. *shaking my head*
What do they REALLY think they are accomplishing???
NO 4 yo talks like that
NO 4 yo talks like that without being coached. BM used to pull this crap. She would tell us allll kinds of crazy things that "SS said". It even lasted up until he was about 7 years old. I supposed she didn't realize we would just ASK SS if he said that and he would give us some crazy look like we are completely off our rockers. Whatever BM!
a 4 year old's psychology
a 4 year old's psychology doesn't connect seeing someone with talking on the phone with them. Definitely BM pulling strings.
actually they won't connect
actually they won't connect it the way she said in the OP comment. They will know who it is on the other end and that they aren't spending time together but they can't psychologically think that because daddy isn't seeing her, she doesn't want to talk on the phone with him. She would most likely say she doesn't want to see him, not keep from talking to him via telephone.
Just finished a detailed child psychology class relating to early childhood. Continuity is just beginning to be a solid concept at 4. My SD is 5 and wouldn't be able to put it together like that, and she's a very sharp-witted and observant child (tends to talk very adult-like sometimes). She gets passed around at her BM's house and says she doesn't want to go there, but she wouldn't be able to connect wanting to see her with wanting to talk on the phone. She says she doesn't want to go over there, but she will gladly talk to her over the phone.
look, you go ahead and think
look, you go ahead and think what you think, and I'll do the same. I'm not on here to argue with you. I already said yes they can connect the person on the phone with the person in real life and their actions. I'm only saying that a 4 year old is unlikely to say what the OP said. I'm here to give my OPINION, and that's what I've done.
I heard a little girl (around
I heard a little girl (around 6ish) at the pool this weekend say to her father when he wouldn't let her do something she wanted, "I'm not going to be your daughter anymore daddy". Kept repeating it over and over. The dad finally said, fine, then I'm not going to take you to the pool or the park anymore or do any other fun things with you if your not my daughter. Shut her up fast. To me this is not something a 6 year old would say if they hadn't heard it before. I'm sure the same is true in your case.