Okay, so DH hasn't seen precious princess (SD16's new nickname going forward is PP) in about a month. He gets 6 weeks in the summer with her, broken up into 3 two week visits.

The count so far since school let out.

She crapped out on him over Father's Day weekend.

She spent 4 of the 14 days of the first two week visit with us.

The week before the 2nd two week visit, said she had a babysitting gig and couldn't come see him (side note, she's 16 and really needs to get a job so DH was okay with this).

Two days before she was supposed to have come over, she texted him that she was with a friend and wanted to ask him a question. When they spoke she apologized for not coming over and said she felt bad. Then told DH the kid she babysits is visiting her dad and so she would be able to stay with us.

**side note - there is no babysitting job. It was just a lie made up to manipulate DH**

The hitch? Oh yes, because there's always a hitch. She wanted him to take her and her friend to a piercing place to get her ear pierced. When asked why, she said because she needs him to authorize the piercing and to pay for it. DH said why do I need to sign anything, she explained because it was in the cartilage of the upper part of her ear.

DH refused to sign off on the piercing, telling PP that Uberskank would have to do it instead. And he said that since this isn't for clothes, entertainment or necessities, he also wasn't paying for it. Explained that she can pay for something like this out of her babysitting money (at this point DH is aware the babysitting job was fictional).

The next day, PP turned around and said the visit wasn't going to work out after all but maybe she could come over the following weekend.

A few days after that she texted DH and said she couldn't make any part of the visit because Uberskank was taking them all (Uberskank, PP and her younger sisters) to Uberskank's new BF's state to visit. Love that Uberskank planned this week-long trip during DH's week with his kid that she approved back in April.

Now they're back. DH wants me to go with him to see his kid and take her to lunch. Why should I ruin my nice Sunday being stuck in a car for a 3 hour round trip drive and having to sit there quietly while listening to her lies and BS for 2 or more hours? Why would I want to do this?? DH is crazy.

More and more I find myself not wanting to be around the two of them. They are so dysfunctional. To top it off I've lost all respect for DH as a parent. He's back to being a Disney Dad, allows his kid to dictate the visitation schedule and then wants me to spend the better part of my precious day off catering to her schedule? No thank you. And if I hear "She's 16, it's just the way teenagers are" one more time I'm gonna :sick:. That's just an excuse to not address her bad behavior. Or the fact he allowing her to run our schedule.

Though I'm sure I'll have the misfortune of having her around sometime in August. Why? Because Daddy-Poo has to buy PP school clothes. Why? Because Uberskank doesn't work or set aside CS money for this. DH doesn't want his kid in ratty clothes (I don't blame him). So I'm sure she'll find a way to be here long enough to have DH take her shopping.

688 more days until she graduates from HS.