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Amazedstepmom's picture

Submitted by Amazedstepmom on Mon, 07/02/2012 - 5:22pm

At a public event, sports, school whatever. Do you tell you kids, skids that they "cannot" say hello to their other parent just because you don't like them. Kids that are old enough to walk independently. And you are 15 feet away.
Just curious what others do.

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3familiesIn1's picture

Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Mon, 07/02/2012 - 5:58pm

THIS

SS6 acts like DH is a complete stranger. Even if DH goes over to BM he will hide or run away or act like he doesn't know him. We have the skids 3-4 days a week.

SD12 often will not look in our direction. Or if she does, she immediately looks to see if her mother saw her look or wave at us.

If we bring the skids to the event - usually SS will run over and sit with his mom, if DH is off taking photos like he likes to, I encourage SS6 to go sit with BM instead of me having to manage him in a public place.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Mon, 07/02/2012 - 5:34pm

I take the opposite approach. When I catch SS direspecting BM, I say something right in front of her "hey, don't talk to your mom like that, you don't talk to me or dad that way". Just so she knows that #1 I heard it and #2 he doesn't act like that with us. Wink

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Submitted by Amazedstepmom on Mon, 07/02/2012 - 6:54pm

I always tell my kids to say hello, goodbye. It's respectful. My 13 yo tonight was texting me at her sisters game. I knew she was there because her sister was. Texted where are you? Told me where which was about 15 feet behind me. I said thanks for saying hello. Reply, dad said I wasn't allowed. My reply...
Well I wouldn't but if I ever did tell you that you couldn't say hello to your family and I wasn't saying no due to safety. I would fully expect you to ignore me and say hello. I would never allow my ill feelings prevent you from being respectful and courteous. One day you will realize what is going on. I am sorry it is like this. I love you.
And this from same person 3 weeks ago who was talking to me about his work, etc.
I swear he's bipolar.

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Submitted by Amazedstepmom on Mon, 07/02/2012 - 7:20pm

He could go jump off a bridge. I don't care if he's an asshole. I care that he tells my daughter she can't say hello

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Submitted by stepnicole2010 on Tue, 07/03/2012 - 9:29am

When my SO goes to the skids' games, they ignore him. Or like 3familiesIn1, SD11 will say hi and then look at her BM to see if she noticed. Makes me really sad to hear about it. I know SO gets really upset and is not sure how to handle it.