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Once again asked DH to keep skids out of our bed and bedroom...

LRP75's picture

I had asked him a long time ago to stop bringing them into our bed -- and he did stop. However, little by little he's been backsliding into his old habits. This past visit with SS has ben flt-out FLAGRANT DISREGARD for my wishes. It's really been pissing me off -- especially with SS, because he's so eff'ing clingy ALL DAY LONG and I can't even have 5 minutes with my husband. Then the little fucker gets to invade MY PERSONAL SPACE and OUR MARRIAGE BED????

Oh to the fuck no.

Once more I explained to DH that our bedroom is MY ONLY PERSONAL SPACE in this house and that the bed is OUR INTIMATE SPACE and that step-children (his or mine) DO NOT belong in our room or in our bed. I explained, once again, that it feels like a HUGE, HUGE violation of MY SPACE for him to invite his children into it -- especially since I've asked him to STOP DOING IT!

I asked, "How would you feel if I let (my son) come into this room and climb all over our bed?"

He said, "Well, that would be really weird -- he's 16!"

I said, "Stop to think about it -- does it really have anything to do with age? Besides, it IS weird -- even with your kids being almost 11 -- it's really freaking weird the way you CUDDLE WITH THEM IN OUR INTIMATE SPACE! It makes me want to throw up."

The last thing I want to do is have the mental image of DH cuddling his fucking kids like they are infants in OUR bed when we are trying to be intimate ourselves.

Seriously, it makes me want to throw up thinking about it.

It's bad enough to watch him cradle SS like he's an infant while watching TV or when SS is whining/crying about some stupid bullshit (such as SS not knowing DH was in the bathroom and SS "couldn't find him...")

Uggg.

OMG. 3 more days of this shit. 3 more days of this shit. 3 more days of this shit.

Comments

napamom's picture

3 more days..you can do it! You must insist your bedroom is child free. That is BS if DH doesn't start respecting that again. These DH's need to stop the coddling and start raising confident, independent kids. The world isn't kind to sissy's.

Helena.Handbasket's picture

I keep waiting for this to happen to me.

I have decided I will flat out walk in and say "get out of my room I'm getting undressed and I need some quiet time in my space"

If that doesn't work I guess I will just have to pee everywhere to mark my territory.

Helena.Handbasket's picture

I like it! That's why I keep my distance. The more distance, the less comfortable they are and yes FEAR is the way I'd rather handle it.

Ommy's picture

Am I the only one thinking pay your son $20 bucks to have mommy son time. This is what I would do. Either that or a lock on the door and not give your husband the key. He can go to bed when you do.

BSgoinon's picture

My kids all have little paper signs on their doors. They each say things like "KEEP OUT if you are mean" or "please use the password to enter (except BSgoin and Dad)". I would be tempted to put a sign on my door like that.

"NO KIDS ALLOWED".