So we went to drop SD off at BM apartment Friday. BM was not there so we called her. After FDH gets off the phone with her this guy with a loaded 9mm gun comes to my window. I'm freaking out having an anxiety attack and he tries to serve me with a no trespassing order. FDH intercepts and gives the letter back to him. Then the guy goes back to his apartment and puts the gun in his house. He was using it to try and intimidate me and FDH. Well i was scared shit less i was never around guns. Of course FDH wasn't phased he spent 12 years in the army.
Anyway BM was not going to be there for 45 minutes and wanted FDH to give SD to the neighbor that just came up to our car with a weapon. FDH said hell no then BM said her boyfriend would get her well that wasn't happening as the judge told BM that boyfriend is not to be alone with SD. We were not waiting 45 minutes in a hot car when it was 90 degrees out. So we waited 20 minutes she didn't show we did our part. So BM called the police apparently from the emergency room. She told the cop this when the cop called us a second time. Apparently she was at the ER for the 3rd time this week(she is trying to get disability and needs her seizures documented). She did not tell FDH this. If she would have told us she was at the ER we would have taken SD to BM mothers house. There would have been no problem. She called the cops. The cop called FDH and talked to him and said BM was being everything except sane. So the cop told BM she can call and make arrangements.
BM decides to call and tell FDH "you need bring bring my fucking daughter back down here". FDH told her she can come get SD, meet him halfway, or reimburst him for gas money. Then he hung up on her because she was still cussing at him.
So we get home and get another call from the cop. By this time FDH and the cop had enough. This cop was awesome. He asked FDH if they made arrangements FDH said he told her the options and she decided to cuss at him. The cop said I'm not calling you a dead beat dad i see you pay 100% for this child and your the CP. So the cops says he will tell BM what FDH has proposed and she needs to be civil when calling. Needless to say BM never called back.
She will probably be at the court house on Tuesday trying to file for contempt on something she already filed for.
Keep in mind its a 3-3 and a half hour round trip to take SD to BM house.
This could have been easily solved if BM would have told FDH she was at the ER. But no she doesn't know how to communicate. As far as that no trespassing order goes i was never served. And the travel arrangements are being changed on the 4th. I go just so FDH has a witness and i can record everything that goes on.