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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 9:15am

When SD started college, BM told DH that she didn't want him paying for any classes in which SD got a C or worse (point being SD is incredibly lazy and typically does only the minimum to get by, and for once BM wanted to hold SD accountable for her behavior). DH talked a big game of agreeing with her, but I know him and I can't imagine him actually holding SD responsible for anything.

Well, SD just informed him she got two Cs, as well as two As and one B. I know most of you are probably thinking this is not bad overall, but DH and I were A students with maybe a few Bs, so getting Cs is not something either of us is used to or really condones.

I can pretty much guarantee you DH is not going to hold up his end of the bargain and make SD cover the cost of the classes she didn't do well in. I no longer care, but I will be waiting to see what happens. Smile

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 9:18am

You are likely correct. My SO says similar, then he starts trying to find whatever positives he can so he doesn't have to be mean to his babygirl.

He isn't as bad as he used to be, but not where he should be either.

Your SD has gotten this far in life doing the minimum and getting by with it, what should change now, right? At least BM got some sense.

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Submitted by DeeDeeTX on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 9:19am

What were the C's in? I can see a C in organic chemistry or nuclear physics....but reading your blog, she probably got a C in Art Appreciation. Blum 3

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 9:21am

Right, SD is still in general education classes. She did not specify which classes she got Cs in. And, even more suspicious, DH is no longer able to access her grades online so he only has her word on her grades. I find that to be pretty convenient timing for his login to no longer work, if you know what I mean. Even more coincidentally, his login went all funny when she finished up classes LAST semester...

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 10:13am

Oh, there were no plans made to figure out how to address this, given that I don't believe DH ever intended to follow through. I offered to put together a "contract" that addresses these issues but Dh acted like I was being a total bit&h so I dropped it. My structure would have been that he did not fund x number of credits SD was taking in a subsequent semester after she did not do well the previous semester. I agree he cannot go in and take the money back once it has been paid. BM wanted SD to pay for it first (she gets loans and grants) and then DH would reimburse her later but again he thought that was "mean."

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 10:22am

So it was all just lip service.

My son's college stil uses snail mail for grades. That way if the kids start playing around with their passwords parents can still get the grades.