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Submitted by psychobitch on Fri, 04/27/2012 - 4:24am

Can anyone tell me how to spend more than 5mins away from this site. Have not stopped reading for the past 10 hours apart from actually being asleep. Still sitting in my pj's at 10:00, need to really get on with my day, but can't stop writing to people, I hate to say I enjoy reading the blogs, but only because it makes me feel better about my life and that I'm not the only one and there are coping mechanisms out there.

Todays update in countryside UK hell, got a call from SK16 college and he did not go in (he's still in bed) and he had an exam this morning. I called him to take the phone but he wouldn't. Once upon a time I would have been outlining how stupid this was to waste an opportunity that could bring him closer to his chosen career-he wants to be a musician and is at music school-but it's his loss. I've informed DH and he can rant and rave at him. I've got better things to do like go and hug my turkey as he's stood outside in the rain shivering..bless him.

Oh, I happen to be a very heavily tattooed person, not trailer trash stylee, real artistic stuff and I know that the next ink I get will be the word 'disengage'. When I feel down and overwhelmed I can just look at it and be reminded...and of course THEY WILL LEAVE HOME ONEDAY....although I was 37 before I left the nest, but my parents really are angels through and through.....

Wet hairy hugs from the UK

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Submitted by BabyDoll on Fri, 04/27/2012 - 7:05pm

LOL... When I first found Steptalk, I couldn't stay off the site for any length of time either. I was very silent at first reading everyone else's content and found that there are some really amazing individuals on this site. It took a major crisis very recently to get me to start posting content.

The things that I have learned from this site is:

(1) I am not alone
(2) What I am feeling is normal
(3) I was very naive with regard to how hard it is to make a blended family work
(4) There are alot of crazy BMs out there
Diablo I can glean wisdom from others that can help me in my current situation
(7) I can help others by sharing my experiences with my skids and their mother.

Welcome psychobitch! I am so happy that you found Steptalk. Smile

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Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Fri, 04/27/2012 - 9:41am

I was here addicted for a bit, then I needed a break from the negativity, my situation is a little easier than many and I was absorbing the trama from others, I took a year off.

I did learn to disengage, during the year off I came to the right level of disengagement for my situation and now I am back - I don't have the anger that I had before, I still post and such, the comments may seem filled with vigor as do some of the blogs - but they do not have the emotion behind them they used to thanks to disengagement.

This site potentially saved my mental state and most likely kept me from self destructing.

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Submitted by majka on Fri, 04/27/2012 - 10:21am

I am QUITE addicted to this site, and have been for over a year. While I do not post all the time, I def read ALL THE TIME.

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Submitted by psychobitch on Fri, 04/27/2012 - 11:45am

Majka, I think I will be alomst opposite, I'll be posting all the time. the friends I have with kids are all bio so would not really understand and I really don't want to be moaning to all my freinds down in London. I have got a million stories of SM misery I could share, I think I might even end up annoying everyone with my constant replying/ blogging !!! I have such a different outlook on SM life today. I was able to eat, had a steaming hot shower and wasted the day watching Will & Grace. If it ever stops raining here I'll try and start my running again and take time out to start writing my book. It's a book about crime & justice, maybe I work in a few ideas where SK's get a really rough ride........

What would we have all done without the inetrnet....I just randomly typed in google 'my stepkids annoy me' and I found a mass of people who can completely understand my issues. I have a feeling I could make some great freinds.

Hairy wet hugs to all step parents xxxxx