So our lawyer finally got his act together and calendared our motion to take away BM's overnights because of her multiple violations. All the details are in my last blog which I would link to if I knew how (someone feel free to tell me how cause after over a year on here I should probably know how to do this).

So anyway, BM has moved again and failed to notify us, which is one of the violations of the order. To put it in her words it's "none of our f*cking business* where she lives. But we have an idea where she lives because the kids showed us the house, so we googled it and came up with a street address. We told our lawyer what we knew, and he said he was going to serve her at the address in the court file which is two houses ago. Our state allows service by mail, as long as you do it x number of days before the hearing.

The problem is that we don't think she'll get it, and then of course won't show up for court. In some ways, this is a dream. She hasn't shown before (because she didn't want to) and the judge gave us whatever we asked for. But there is a part of me that doesn't think it's fair to her. I want the judge to decide based on what he thinks is best based on all the info, and I have little doubt that her being there changes the outcome much.

Maybe I'm just afraid of the backlash. Then she gets to say to the kids, I didn't know we had court, it's your mean daddy's fault.

And of course, we go to court on my birthday. Happy fing Bday to me. Spend all day with BPD/HPD BM and have to see psycho BPD SD21 that night for MY birthday (this is a whole separate blog)

Am I crazy for worrying about this?