D-Day Part II
So SD22 finally came home yesterday and went straight up to her room and closed the door. DW was gone, and I felt it would be best to confront her together instead of me doing it. Well she was in her room for hours and I had things to do so I left. DW came back a little bit after I left. SD22 came downstairs and started cleaning up some of GS3's mess he made in our kitchen. SD22 says "It's going to be hell living with SD27". DW simply replied "Well, you should've got your own place then. No one is forcing you to live with SD27." SD22 stormed off and went upstairs.
Later she came downstairs and says "GS3 is in the bath and I need to go." DW asks where does she HAVE to go. SD22 says she has to go "figure things out" so she and GS3 can be out of our hair. DW tells her not to bring GS3 into it, because he's not the real issue. DW then says "You're going to be back right, because if you're not you need to take GS3 with you." SD22 says yes and then takes off. When I got home, DW said we are going to sit down and talk with SD22.
Of course SD22 didn't come back until hours later, after we've put GS3 to bed and after we were already in bed. I'm really trying to be diplomatic about the whole thing because I do appreciate that DW actually has my back and is standing firm. I know this is all hard for DW and I don't to cause any futher strife, but SD22 is really about to force my hand on changing the locks.
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***UPDATE**** So as we speak,
***UPDATE****
So as we speak, SD22 is washing her bedding and packing up stuff. She is trying to lay an even bigger guilt trip on DW, saying how GS3 is crying about not wanting to go to SD27's place. DW calmly explained to SD22 that "HOME" is wherever she is with her son. As long as she is there, GS3 will be just fine.
SD22 also asked DW if she could pick GS3 up every morning from SD27's and take him to daycare. DW told her no, that it was not her responsibility.
Hang in there,
Hang in there, frustratedstepdad. You had to expect SD22 would resist as long as possible and beyond. As long as DW doesn't give in - and it sounds like she is not going to - it will start to sink in for SD22 that she is really going to have to leave. It sounds like she is planning to take GS3 with her, but as you know from my situation, that is not a guarantee.
When we kicked SD25 out in January, she also resisted, so DW went up to her room while she was lying in bed all day and started packing up her stuff and putting it outside the front door. Eventually SD25 got the message that DW was serious about kicking her out, and got up and took her stuff and left. (Her furniture is still sitting in our garage since last August, but DW is finally getting fed up with that and is going to tell SD25 to either move it to a storage unit, or we'll leave it on the curb.)
Looks like you were posting
Looks like you were posting an update just as I was typing my comment. I'm so glad DW is not going for the guilt trip and is standing firm.