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Elizabeth's picture

My mother is having a birthday, and I contacted my sibling who lives in the same town so we could plan dinner or something. My mother came over and I was discussing plans with her. She said my father told her that plans for her birthday are not his responsibility but are OUR responsibility as her children.

Does anyone else find this weird? I don't expect my kids to make plans for DH's birthday celebration. I was kind of baffled by this. I don't mind making the plans, and I did, but I was surprised to learn my father considers it to be our responsibility (I am one of three children).

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GoodbyeNormaJean's picture

Ha ha. If I was your mom, I would tell him that plans for his dinner and laundry are not my responsibility...lol.

Um, plans for my birthday are DH's responsibility, and he better not screw it up either! It's nice that my kids always do something or acknowledge me in some way, but he's my husband, and I expect him to put forth some effort on my special day. He wouldn't like it if I layed the responsibility for the observance of his birthday onto his kids. Lame. He'd probably end up with a Pop Tart with a candle in it.

Elizabeth's picture

We always do nice things for my mother. I am far beyond adult at this point (age 40, I blush to admit it). Most times my kids and I get her flowers and a card, as well as some sort of gift. So it's not as if he suddenly decided he's going to make us "step up to the plate" so to speak. It just seems like he's abdicated responsibility for this occasion, and I find that odd. If my siblings and I were NOT planning it, would my mother have NO birthday celebration?

Elizabeth's picture

Nobody really pointed it out. I was just asking if she and my dad had already made plans (to go out themselves or go out with friends) so I didn't interfere. That's when my mom told me what my dad said. It was weird.