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First day of disengagement

misscinna's picture

Ss3 is loving it. Gets to do what he wants. No one to tell him no unless its dangerous or its something he wants but cant do himself. Sd5 is trying really jard to suck up and please me. Why? I have no clue. I briefly explained what was going to change, why, who to ask for things and that it wasnt a punishment. Sd10 is mad at me. First she cried. Then she called daddy to tell on me that I wont do what I normally do. Then she hid in her room all day. Shes angry that the good morning wake ups, the hair braiding, all the little gifts at the store stop unless I WANT to. Shes pissed that shes losing her free ride fake mom.

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JJlove's picture

I absolutely agree! I HAD to do this! I had no choice! SS8 was going back telling lies to BM about me, so in order to protect my own ass.....Disengaging was the only option. I'm not rude or blatant about it, I'm just there. I don't go out of my way to not be around the little devil, but I certainly do the bare minimum. He's not here to see me....he's here to see his Dad. Bottom Line.

misscinna's picture

My skids arent bad, or disrespectful. Its just everything has been a power struggle lately and about making sure it is known that I am not part of the family. Sd10 wants to whine and complain everytime shes asked to do her 1 count them 1 household chore of unloading dishes but thinks me coming to school events, baking hee birthday cupcakes and braiding her hair nightly is just "something we do" Their mom has made it clear that they dont have another mom, a stepmom or anything else. She pretty much wants to view and treat mw like a babysitter. Available to watch the kids when convenient. Sd10 tattled on me to her mom saying I yelled at her for trying to help her brother and I said I was his mom. Never happened. I told her she wasnt his mom and that he fell down the stairs it was a job for an adult so she didnt hurt him further. Well mommy who sees them all of four days a month tells the other skid to relay a friendly little message back to me. Enough GAMES. I wont try and counter act the influence of their mother Especially when they are playing love me here, hate me there. So far the younger kids seem to be loving not having to include me in anything. They just ignore me and ask daddy for everything. Sd10 is mad

alwaysanxious's picture

Yeah, I wouldn't be interacting with SD10 at all. She's a shit disturber.