there is a loser from high school that contacted me on fb a while back. my friend is dating his cousin, so i got some of this info from her, but he admitted to a lot of it himself. he is 34. lives at home. bitches about his parents nonstop. yet they are supporting him 100%. he has an 8 year old son that he pays no support of any kind on, yet bitches about the bm not always letting him have the kid when he wants him. perhaps she's worried that her son won't be fed, idiot. he is making no move whatsoever to get out. never looks for a job. just bums around town, doing nothing all day and all night. if he gets a dollar or 2 somehow, he buys a freaking scratch off ticked with it! because hoping to hit the whopping $5000 or whatever the limit is makes so much more sense than getting a job. he scratched one off in front of me once and was over the moon because it was a $2 winner. :?

being that his cousin is dating a friend of mine, i have seen this loser in a few social situations. i have watched him steal cigarettes out of people's packs when they aren't looking, and he has even asked me to buy him cigarettes and run him around here and there. he has asked to "borrow" money from me. like he has any way to pay it back. he has asked me if i had any spare change. he has hinted at me that he's hungry and i should take him somewhere to get him food. this moron has no pride and no shame. we weren't even friends in school, i didn't really know him that well, even back then there was something about him that seemed off to me.

he was hit by a drunk driver while riding his bike at 17 and was in a coma for a month. i'm convinced that his brain was damaged to the point of being unable to mature past age 17. he got stuck where he was when it happened. he got $60k from that accident and had it blown in a year with nothing to show for it. he kept telling everyone he hoped he got a pair of tennis shoes for fathers day. i don't know who he expected to get them for him. i think he should have been more concerned with finding a way to at least get his own dad a card instead of worrying about who was going to honor him with a gift on father's day, even though he's a shit dad. good grief. i had to block him on fb cuz he was making me crazy. a few other friends from high school have done the same. he seems to think the world owes him something. he's SO lucky his parents are still together, because i can't imagine a stepparent in the world, be it a stepmom or stepdad, that would be ok with this 34 year old ungrateful LOSER living at home and doing not a damn thing to better his situation, instead he just bitches because mommy and daddy don't buy him everything he wants. :O

I used to think "just hang in there for x more years and then the nasty skids will be gone". But then I would remind myself that, in reality, they will never be gone. Either they will live in your house till they are 24 or even older (no way I could have done that). Or you have to still deal with them and BMs and MILs at graduations, weddings, baby showers etc. And the guilty dads aren't going to be any better with grandskids.

Life is too short and too precious.

Crazy, crazy, crazy...I think a lot of it has to do with parents. I left home at 20 when I got married and stopped going to school. I worked full time, then started paying my own way through school and going part time. I went to school 3 hrs a day, 5 days a week and worked 8hrs a day as well. When I got divorced, my mother suggested I went home to live with them. Instead, I worked overtime, paid my own way and never once returned home. My brother on the other hand, sat at home for quite a few years, doing nothing, no school, no job, nothing...and my mom thought nothing of it because he was the baby...Finally he got married at left around age 24 or so...sigh My brother's loser BIL lives with him and his wife...he has crappy jobs and doesn't pay a dime towards the home. The wife sees nothing wrong with it.

Not only is 30 the new 18, these idiots are spawning!

God help their spawn.