Well ss16 decided he will go after all.
I was making mickey heads with our names and stuff and I asked all the kids to pick out a color but not him. He asked why not? I told him that I didn't know if he was going. He yeah i;m going. I said you are? He said yeah it will be fun. Ok well pick out a color. So he did.
i didn;t get a chance to really talk to him about it but he is going. I am actually glad he is b/c i know he will have fun and he would regret not going. Plus it is fin to make things for them. i have made shirts, mickey heads with their names, epcot passports, water bottles with their names in disney characters. I still have a few more things to make.
I think this is what the deal is and why he didn't want to go, he found out it was bday present and it wasn;t want he wanted as he had something else in mind (which is fine and I understand the disappointment) and that if he said I don;t want to go then he will get what he wants. So in other words he used basic manipulation to get his way and it almost worked til I told dh that he is refusing his gift and that it was wrong. We talked about what ss16 was trying to do and dh agreed with me and he had a talk with him while I was at work. That must have worked as he changed his mind.
Now I don;t mind him going b/c I know him and he won;t be one that teens that will make it miserable for everyone but he will have fun. So thanks ladies.
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I was smiling reading this!
I was smiling reading this! It's great that you all will have a great experience together. Have alot of fun!!!!
thanks yes That was my goal
thanks yes That was my goal to the whole thing. I have been saving for over 2 years for this trip and they all know it we just didn't know when we could go till christmas when it all fell in place. I have always wanted to go to disney and take the kids and I know they will have fun.
as i said I think ss16 was jut trying to get his way by the classic fit that most kids throw and it didn't work. that was the main thing that I wanted ss16 to learn from. That you can't do things like that as it is not nice and life is life sometimes you get things you really love and sometimes you don;t but that doesn;t mean you make that person feel bad about it you accept it will gratefulness.
This in case HRNYC shows up
This in case HRNYC shows up or I'm sure she will read this!
HRNYC I do NOT appreciate that you are trying to make me look like an evil step mom when I had NO control over what ss16 does or dh for that matter! And for you insinuating that I don;t want to take my skids but will take my own, I never said that. Ss16 was going and wanted to go and I was fine with that til he found out it was a bday present. Ss16 changed his mind when he found out it was his bday present instead of getting something on top of that. Plus ss16 doesn't know and neither do any of the others that they will be getting 100 bucks to spend. So really I'm not as evil as you think!
Plus you don;t really know anything about me b/c if you did you would know that I have older kids and not younger kids so there is no taking my bio younger kids and leave skids at home. If you are going to throw accusations around you might want to at least KNOW the persons history and how old their kids are and how many there are BEFORE you accuse
HRNYC Really? Seriously?? Did
HRNYC Really? Seriously?? Did you ALWAYS as a kid get whatever it was you wanted for your bday?? God I hope not and if you did that explains your attitude as you are just as entitled as kids these days! I bet you skipped over the part where I said each kid will get 100 bucks to spend or save while there too! Yep b/c if you had seen that you still wouldn't be on this little soap box! The only reason they don't know is b/c I wanted that to be a surprise and I have that right to do that too if i want! besides this is MY money that is funding this not yours! And no dh did not realize that he just fell into ss16 guilt trip. As dh and I were talking he came up with that all on his own, saying that he should have seen that one coming and dh also said he didn;t want to tell him that he will get 100 buck to spend b/c he didn;t want him to make that a deciding factor and that was the only reason he would go. I have a wonderful dh and he is a GREAT father but he is human as we all are.
And I'm sure you also ignored the fact that I wasn't the one that told him to stay home as that was ss16 idea so again i will ask HOW am I the evil step mom that doesn;t want my skids to go? And How did I indicated ever that I didn't want my skids to go but to take my own kids? Oh and again the next time you want to throw accusations around you still might want to get the facts straight b/c my kids are older then my skids! And from the beginning it was ALWAYS that ALL kids were going there was NO question about that. And if you would have done a little research on me you would have noticed that me and the skids have a good relationship and they are no trouble expect for normal kid behaviors! But nope you just automatically ACCUSE me of not wanting to take my skids b/c that is what you automatically jump to so that you can accuse me of being the evil step mom!
For what it is worth, I think
For what it is worth, I think that what you are doing is awesome and I totally agree with how you are handling your SS16. I really did not want to jump on the "HRNYC is a BM/troll" bandwagon but I think it is pretty obvious at this point that she just likes to make crazy statements and tear people down. Because that is what people under the kind of pressure we are need, right? UGH!
Hope you all have a wonderful time at Disney!!!!!
I guess nobody taught YOU
I guess nobody taught YOU that a person should be grateful to get ANYTHING AT ALL when it comes to special events.
And if you really do have any kids (bio or step), they are probably being raised in the good-old ENTITLEMENT GENERATION way. Wonderful.
BUY THE MEAL PLANS FOR EACH
BUY THE MEAL PLANS FOR EACH PERSON!!!
Alice I looked into the meal
Alice I looked into the meal plans and it is quite a bit more for us after I looked on the menus and crunched the #s so we are not going that route. But thanks so much. I have been so much research and planning. I even made a planning book lol
Meal plans are not worth it.
Meal plans are not worth it. You have to eat at specific restaurants and most of us don't enough to warrant the cost.
What did you decide about
What did you decide about tickets?
Y.E.S. opened opened up about a week ago. We were able to save$600+ on our tickets by signing the girls up for a class at the Magic Kingdom,
Disneyfan my sil got us a
Disneyfan my sil got us a smokin' deal we are paying 140 person per ticket for 4 days with water park more and fun! I know what a DEAL! i'm so excited about this one alone! I have looked into the Y.E.S but when my sil called me ad told me about this we went with her. It is legit just to let you know but i don't want to post it here as I don;t want to catch any flack. It is not illegal or anything.
thanks for the help.
I'm glad things worked out in
I'm glad things worked out in the end and everyone will go and have a good time. It's really sweet all the things you're doing for the kids. You remind me of myself - a bog time planner (I love DIY stuff too).
I love the way you handled the situation too and I'm sure (or I hope) he'll learn something. A gift is a gift is a gift.
Thanks ladies I'm glad he is
Thanks ladies I'm glad he is going I was kinda upset that if he didn't go that he would be missing out on a wonderful experience. And he wouldn't get his 100 bucks in spending money that I'm SURE he'd be kicking himself!
Thanks stepdown, I know ss16
Thanks stepdown, I know ss16 will have a great time and once he gets his 100 bucks he will not think twice about not getting anything else on his bday. lol