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My Weekend!!!!

daisy0202's picture

My weekend was not as bad as I thought it would be....GREAT STORY!!!

Got snowed in on Sat....Got hit pretty bad where I live....Friday was nice SD16 was at her BM and she decided not to talk to her BM about not going there on weekdays so there was no drama....(glad for the no drama) Went out with my son for food shopping and dinner. DH did not go in case drama hit with SD16 which did piss me off but whatever had a great night with my son 14...Came home and DH and I had a drink and talked about the issues we have been having....Trying to make me feel better about the issues....After about 4 glasses of wine and our conversation still going i really didnt give a shit because i was feeling really good and the phone was not ringing off the hook with SD16 drama issues.... So needless to say Friday went well....

Sat DH picked up SD16 from BM's around 10 and by then the snow was comming down pretty well. Well SD wanted to go to grandma's so DH called me and asked me to go with them...(which i am sure SD loved) So i agreed to go along for the ride but my son 14 did not want to go so he stayed home playing games...

While in the car DH stopped for gas and as soon as DH stepped out of the car SD16 told me...

SD: you didnt have to come you know. I was hoping for some time with my dad....

Me: well your dad wanted me to go so dont know what to tell you.

SD: you could of said no

Me: well i didn't want to and BTW I am getting alittle tired of this so please stop.

SD; Stop what being his daughter

Me: no stop treating me like shit because i am not going anywhere and getting really sick of this so cut the shit now...I turned around looked her dead in the eye and said...Your not going to win!!!! So just stop!!!

I can not believe I said it but i did and it felt great. When DH got into the car I told SD tell your father about our little conversation before I do....She started to cry....i just started talking and told DH what she said and what i said...SD's face was priceless....We didn't end up going to grandma's and SD16 is...PUNISHED!!!!! OMG she wanted to go to the mall yesterday and told DH she was going until DH told her "ahhh no your not" She had a hissy fit and wanted to go to BM's.....IT WAS SWEET REVENGE!!!! She stayed in her room all the rest of the day Sat. and Sunday...and DH told me do not do her laundry she can do her own until she can treat you better....This ends TODAY!!!!!

Ladies and gents it was WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!

Sunday night of course she came downstairs told me she wanted to talk to me alone....I was not confortable with that and told her I have no problem talking to you but I think your dad should be present...She was pissed at that....She cried said she didn't know what was wrong with her she loves me and loves being here and sometimes gets mad that her mom is not like me and blah blah blah....Of course DH was crushed at all and felt so bad for her but i was not....I listened to her told her I am not your enemy and just want a peaceful house and move forward....She was hoping her punishment was over but DH stuck to it and SD16 was BS at that....I think that she thought by talking to me and crying it would make DH give in....But DH told her...SM does your laundry, cooks for you, takes you to school, takes you places all the time, takes very good care of us and you need to respect her....SD said sorry i will and went back to her room.....She is going to BM;s today and tomorrow....probably to bitch to her.....THAT IS FINE!!!! maybe she will stay there this week...Wouldn't that be WONDERFUL!!!

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WickedSMom's picture

Congrats on the step forward! Stories like this keep me going...give me hope that all is not lost. Smile

jenlou's picture

Wow! I can not believe that your SD talks to you like that, but I know mine did when she was younger, I have just forgotten about it because she is not around (I am dealing with her 20 year old brother now) That is wonderful that your husband defended you and is showing you respect.. I did all the same things for my step-daughter and she treated me awful, but in my case both of my husbands kids did the jumping back and forth between living at mommy's house and daddy's house, who ever let them get away with the most and who ever was willing to spend the most money on them at the time.. Its been a long 12 years for me and my biological daughter.
I hope your husband is strong enough to continue to enforce her being respectful to you, I know its hard for them and they genuinely feel torn, at least it seems to be that way for my husband. But for a parent to do nothing about his or her child's behavior out of guilt is doing the child no good in the long run! Good for your husband!

Jsmom's picture

Your DH needs a really big hug. DH was helpful like that but, only if he heard her say it. Good job...These teenage SD's are the worst....

daisy0202's picture

MY DH is great...Although he gives in all the time...i was happy to see this time he didn't....She is gone for 2 days, with her being punished i don't think we will have any drama because then she will have to come back to her punishment....Praying she stays with Bm all week till Monday...This weekend no SD, my son going to his dads and we have a weekend ALONE!!!!! All sorts of plans we have in effect...Hoping they all fall through without little miss drama!!!!