vacay question?

should the teen stepkids have a room to their own while my bkids sleep in the same room as us the parent who are paying for whole thing. the skids will be bale to do things my bsons cant and will not be a requirement for them to watch them.also my bsons are not young toddlers they are 11 and 14 years old, your thoughts plz?

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thats was the plan .h and i

thats was the plan .h and i already had a three day vacay just us while we had the kids stayed home with a adult to watch out for them here.now sd was paid for her time and effort with the boys and cooking and all that jazz.
Now the skids are requesting that they get a room all to themselves.the boys cant go on rides they can go on and they will be able to go about on their own. they will not be required nor made to keep an eye out on the boys. here at home the skids can come and go as they please,got friends calling and all kinds of freedoms the bsons dont get. so to me they shouldn't get a room all to themselves.its a family vacay not thier vacay.

i got no worries in that

i got no worries in that department.the skids have their faults but they wouldnt put the boys in harms way.

yes the skids are sd15 and

yes the skids are sd15 and ss16.bsons are 11 and 14 years old.the skids have no problem sharing the room to themselves.so its not a fact oh she or he is uncomfortable because she is a girl or he is a boy type of thing.

When the 6 of us go on

When the 6 of us go on vacation .... 2 mid-teenage boys (my SK's) my DD, younger teen, and my DS 11 - we ask for adjoining rooms. On the occasion the hotel cannot accomodate adjoining rooms, my DH stays in the room with the boys and my DD and I stay in the other. You are correct, this is a family vacation. The older teens should have at least some "responsibility" to make face-time with the rest of you just so you know they're OK, what the plans are for the day, etc.

well we are going to

well we are going to seaworld.plus the mall in the area and so on.one place we will be visiting will be hard for the boys since its abit of hiking involved which will good for them but nonthless hard for them.
also with your idea it will be four boys in one room and sd15 and i in another.it would be very awkward since we do not get along well.

i am opposed to the idea for

i am opposed to the idea for reasons listed and think they should not get a room to themselves due they are not contributing to the trip financially and should do as we tell them to do.sd is using our previous adult vacay as leverage and guilt tripping her father into it even tho she is 15!

but she has np staying in the

but she has np staying in the room with her 16 year old brother

H just told he doesn't feel

H just told he doesn't feel guilt tripped into it and went on to defend them. i flat out told him i am sick and tired of them using me and my boys as reasons their lives are so horrible.

Ours were two rooms away from

Ours were two rooms away from us, our girl often would prefer to be with us rather than her brothers and we have no problem with that. Where there's a will there's a way for private moments with DH and I. When they were asleep in the mornings we'd spend time together, or go to the pool. Teenagers seem not to like getting up early in the mornings...LOL

The adults get the private

The adults get the private room. If older kids want a private room find out how much it costs and they can pay for it themselves.

When I was a teen 5 of us (3 girls, 17-13 & 2 boys 8&9) shared a motel room with 2 double beds and so we took turns sleeping in sleeping bag on the floor. Our usual vacation was camping and we were grateful our parents took us anywhere. We would never have asked for a private room.

We were 3 teen sisters and 2

We were 3 teen sisters and 2 younger boy cousins sharing one motel room for 3 days with my parents in a room next door.

What exactly do you think would happen with a mix of ages and sexes from one family? My family has big slumber parties with all the cousins, nieces and nephews (ages 2-17) sleeping in sleeping bags on the floor in the basement. The adults are upstairs playing cards until the wee hours.

We have also rented a 3 bedroom beach house and had 14 kids and 8 adults stay with teens sleeping on an outside deck and kids in sleeping bags on every bare surface. I guess we value fun over privacy in my family.

yes

Not to hijack your post

Not to hijack your post Rozylady2 but I think this is an example of why kids of this generation, skids in particular are not leaving the nest and becoming independent adults.
Why leave home and find your own life & independence, when you can call the shots and have guilty daddy pay the bill? If any one of us had asked our dad to pay for an extra room or for him & mom share with our younger siblings so we older kids could have some privacy he would have laughed in our faces. Then told us to pay for our own vacation if the accommodations were not to our liking.

i agree todays generation are

i agree todays generation are lazy and to scared to move forward with their lives.

i trust them to do the right

i trust them to do the right thing. we been together for four years.i trust them enough to run to the corner store and so on.

You and husband get your own

You and husband get your own room and the kids ALL get a room together. If the girl doesn't like it or anyone else, they can pay for their own room. If not, then make it really miserable and have the girls, incl. you in a room and all the boys in the other...LOL...she'll hate that! :sick:

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