You won't insult me tonight, kid.
DH called earlier and during the conversation, he asked me what I was fixing for supper. I told him that WE were having chicken. Since it’s a ‘skid night’, he asked me what they were going to be eating. I told him that I would open a can of ravioli and some applesauce. He sat in silence for a minute and then asked me if I was serious. Am I serious? Yes. Why? Because EVERY SINGLE TIME I cook something for SS6, he complains about it. There’s always SOMETHING that he doesn’t like. It’s not that I don’t fix kid friendly meals. On Saturday, I made pork roast, mashed potatoes and mac ‘n cheese. I make homemade mashed potatoes and have NEVER had anyone tell him that they were “gross”. Not to toot my own horn, but I make some awesome MPs! LOL Well, because they weren’t the ‘heat and serve’ kind that BM makes, they were “disgusting” to SS6. SD8 had no problem with them. It’s happened several times, and I’m tired of being insulted. One morning, I was cooking biscuits and sausage. SS threw a FIT because they weren’t the microwavable kind. This is all thanks to BM. I cook 95% of our meals because it’s cheaper, and I enjoy it. BM’s meals are ‘heat and serve’ or fast food served at 9p. So, yes, I refuse to waste anymore food on SS6. I’m tired of letting food/drinks go to waste, when I could be saving it for DH’s or my lunch. I’m not even going to give SS the opportunity to insult my cooking. DH can be peeved about it all he wants. If he wants them to have what we’re having tonight, he’s more than welcome to come home and fix them that. 
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LOL...I have to laugh because
LOL...I have to laugh because I went through the exact same thing with my SD when she was that age. She learned very quickly that if she didn't eat what was on her plate that she would have to wait until the next meal. So after some time she realized that I wasn't going to fix her anything else so she started eating what I put in front of her. We still have some issues and she's 10 now but it's alot better.
I have the same problem you do...BM does not cook at all, it's all frozen stuff or take out..so my SD has some eating issues but were working on it...She does love my cooking so that's a good thing. As you I cook pretty much every single meal for us. I love to cook and I told her that my special ingredient is love..so that made her very happy to know that I put some love in my cooking for her...
It will pass..just hang in there..... Cheers... Z
Whats up with all these moms
Whats up with all these moms who don't prepare fresh meals for their children? Doesn't their health mean anything?! We def. have the same problem here. I actually bought one frozen dinner (bc I had a coupon) and DH jokingly said I should have saved it for when SS was here so he would think he was at his moms house and actually eat
Some people are too lazy to
Some people are too lazy to cook. Other people love to cook. And then there are some people that are dangerous when they cook. BM is unable to understand how to cook homemade meals so she does the heat and eat stuff(if she manages to have any food in the house). SD wants to eat that way with us. We let her and just enjoy our meals. I don't even bother getting a plate out for her anymore, I figure it's a waste of my time and energy.
I think that is an acceptable
I think that is an acceptable thing to do, I have issues with that 50% of the time when he is being ornary. I make all our food...I went to culinary school for goodness sake, I know I can cook. But his mother doesn't cook, if he doesn't eat with his grandma he eats out, so half the time he says he loves my cooking but then I think he feels guilty and then he will refuse to eat anything, so he has to wait till the next meal, I am not catering to tantrums.
When DH was CP, I cooked,
When DH was CP, I cooked, from scratch, every night. Every night, his kid would put the food in her mouth and start a half hour of gagging and retching. DH would tell her to knock it off, but he never followed it up with any kind of discipline. I finally lost it one night during one of her performances:
I got up out of my chair so fast it fell over.
I walked into the kitchen and grabbed the garbage can.
I brought it back to where his kid was sitting, grabbed her dinner plate and dumped her food into the garbage can.
I grabbed the plate, her utensils (not that she ever used them), the garbage can and returned everything to the kitchen.
I grabbed a loaf of bread, mustard, turkey and cheese and dumped them on her place-mat.
I walked back to my place at the table, righted my chair and calmly began to eat my dinner.
DH's kid looked at me and said "Is this what I'm supposed to eat?"
I looked at her and DH and stated "I don't give a s**t what you eat, I don't even give a s**t if you starve to death. But I will not tolerate your bulls**t again. Eat A Sandwich Or Go Away Now."
From that day until she FINALLY moved back in with Uberskank, I refused to cook for her or eat at the same table. DH would fix her dinner for her before I got home from work (funny how I started working later and later). Then I'd come home and I would cook dinner for us. I couldn't get out of avoiding her when we had company but I was able to stay the hell away from her the rest of the time.
I very, rarely cook when she's over. DH prepares most meals or if I cook, all it takes is one look from me to shut her the hell up.
I love that you just put the
I love that you just put the sandwich making ingredients on her placemat......thats great
Thank you. I certainly didn't
Thank you. I certainly didn't want her calling up Uberskank and complaining that I was starving her.
I learned a valuable lesson while DH's kid lived with us, my mother and my aunt taught me proper table manners for a reason. No one and I mean no one wants to sit across from a rude, ill-mannered person while they're eating. No one wants to invite an ungrateful brat to dinner who gags over the meal. No one wants to go out with someone who doesn't know how to use a fork & knife, wipe their mouth with a napkin and not their sleeve or chews with their mouth open.
So to my mother and my aunt - thank you for being so strict with all of us kids.
I always make Mac and Cheese
I always make Mac and Cheese from scratch. White sauce into cheese sauce and breadcrumbs and cheese on top... my kids always love it. DHs kids told me they want the REAL stuff. Ummm, when I make it it cannot be any more real unless it did a dance for you on your plate.
DH said that I should make their kind of Mac and Cheese for them just to be nice. Excuse me? Nice? How nice would I be to open a box and make Florescent yellow cheese POWDER into somethign edible? It was the same colour as the playdough my kids played with at preschool!
I gave him 'the look'. He backed off. And if his kids wanted the REAL stuff they could go back to their mother's place. I will NOT make box M&C! Ever!
BAck to the OP ... take the food away. And tell him that as you have yet to kill anyone with your cooking he can either eat it or have a P&J sandwich and no dessert. And it may be time to tell your DH that he is doing his son no favours by allowing him to be so rude. How does he think his son & heir will behave when having dinner with friends families? Grimacing and making pukey noises will only reflect back on to his parents and their expectations for their son. I told DH this when he excused his sons bad table manners. I refused to eat out with them while they behaved so badly. And I became very 'sleepy' when we went to bed. He he he he.
I made turkey parm tonight
I made turkey parm tonight and stuffed portabellos. When the skid acted like he was going to "vomit" the last bite back onto his plate, I said, "Oh, that's ok FSS. If you're full, then I'll just put whatever you can't eat in some tuperware for your breakfast." It got swallowed pretty quickly. I'm lucky he's not a picky eater really. I get not wanting to be insulted. That's not really cool.
Our house. You eat what is
Our house. You eat what is cooked. If you don't like it, leave. I do not make separate meals. I do however, take requests and try to make meals I know SS and BS will like. I save the fancy stuff when it is just DH and I. BM is a health nut and he hates eating there. Loves to eat here and has lots of favorite meals. Wasn't always like that, early on he and his Brat Sister were rude. It was me not bending. I was going to cook what I liked to eat and meals I was good at. They learned. They always had to at least have a small amount on their plate. Now they expect the small portion on their plate of everything on the table.
Hardest part was getting them to accept that you have to eat at least some of the vegetables. Now they even eat at least 4 brussel sprouts.
It is hard to do, but just continue to cook and don't accept them not eating it. They have no choice or they leave the room and they get nothing else. They all eat very unusual food now.