Hello ladies.

Well, I've done it again, against my better judgment and I've been taking it very slow, but guess what? This just might work!

I met a man who has three kids. Two grown sons, the 18 year old works where I work and I just adore this kid! The older one I have met once and he is a nice young man.

I wouldn't go out with the dad for the longest time because he also has a 10 year old daughter. I straight up told him- deal breaker! I finally buckled and went out with him - just friends at first, make no sudden moves or Fence will split for the high country!

I met the little girl quite by accident at the nearby little store and she walked up to me and said hi! I was shocked! Now I see her EOWE and sometimes on the week nights she is at SO's. We really love each other! BM is getting married in October, seems to be an active parent. A royal bit$#, I understand, but that doesn't seem to have any effect on me so far. I have only seen her from a distance at little girl's ball games.

This child has MANNERS!!! SO is listening to me and making changes!! (treating her like her age instead of like a baby, keeping adult bedroom off limits without express invitation, etc.) I am in SHOCK! If any of you remember the living hell I went through with XBF, the poster child for Guilty Daddy and author of The Dysfunctional Way to Ruin the World With Lousy "Parenting" you will know how huge this is for me.

This child called me on Mother's Day to wish me happy Mother's Day. She tells her dad she wishes I were her step mother! She brought me a little gift from her vacation with BM and SF! She always wants to ride with me when we have to take two cars places. Once, when we were walking, she had one of dad's hands and I had the other and she said now he has 2 girls! She even asked if she could cook dinner for us one night and she did a simple dinner for her brother, his girlfriend, his dad and me. She introduces me as Dad's girlfriend.

I'm scared! What's wrong with this picture? I have tried to not get too close to this wonderful man because of the kid, but I find myself falling in love with HER!! I think of things we can do together!

I have not made any effort to buddy to her. It's all been on her part so far and when I see something I don't like, I bring it to SO's attention. He definitely cares what I have to say. He loves his kids, but he places me in the proper spot as the woman he loves.

He's reading Stepmonster and offered we could do counseling if we wanted.

Is this OK? The guy's an alien, right? And his kids are obviously from an alien planet with manners. His parents love me and don't maintain a relationship with BM.

Really????

Like I said, I am skeptical and keeping my eyes open- oh, they were opened wide and permanent by my last train wreck, but it's been a bit over three months now and it's getting even better!