My 45yr old boyfriend has three sons 27, 15, 12 yrs of age. The one I have an issue with is the father and the 12 yr. old. I just got hung up on last night by the father because I was trying to explain to him how I feel about what the son is doing and what him as a father isn't doing.

I have noticed a trend in the last year which kindof makes me want to slap the sh** out of the kid. I have a 23yr. old son who is a wonderful person. He is a University student who worked to pay his student loan etc. he made it his choice to payoff his SL before going back to school. So it's not like I am a terrible person the wicked stepmother.

I will start with the use of vulgar language the 12 yr old feels it's ok to use the word Fu**, Bi***, Cu**, those are the nastier ones. The words are used pretty much in every sentence with his father sitting next to him and no correction, discipline.

I had a situation happen last year when we went to get the brat his bike. As the bike was put into my vehicle because his father didn't own one at the time, the kid called me a Cu**. The father didn't even blink. I got upset and told the kid what he has said was inappropriate and I didn't appreciate being called names. His father then wanted to stop at McD to get his kid a flurry. Great! I know what I would have done. Bike back in store kid in bedroom and grounded for two weeks.

This kid also likes to insult his father verbally call him names, also if his father is resting the kid likes to scream out to his father and demand food, or drinks etc. The kid insults his brother who is 15yrs old verbally. The school is sending messages and calling almost every day because of this kids abusive attitude and mouth. When his father yells at him, he automatically says he is sorry and hugs his father while looking at me and smirking.

His father suffers from depression and stress when this happens and I am with the father the kid decides to live with his mother because he doesn't want to be with his father while he isn't happy. I really don't like this kid. Oh God I don't like this kid.

So last night, I was explaining to the father that his son was on the internet as a host for a gaming room. The kid is only 12 and is hosting a room full of adults. The kid told the adults in the room he is 19 yrs. old. So trying to explain to the father this isn't something the kid should do due to the atmosphere in the room based on "age" the father became defensive and asked what the big deal was. I explained that things are talked about in the room and the child is not responsible judge of character actually this kid is like a dirt junkie anything related to sex and opposite sex he is there. I explained that this kid needs some structure, consequences for his actions. He became defensive and told me I was calling him a bad father. I told him he was a father who didn't want to react to his kid because that would require him to do something consistent like pay attention to his kid. That ended the phone call.

I know I should just walk away and leave the father to deal with the consequences because they are coming. Also, what I find hilarious is the fact if I correct the kid and send him to his room or tell the kid what he is saying or how he is treating father isn't fair the father looks at me like I just smacked the kid. Do you all agree I should just walk away and never look back? My son definitely thinks the kid is a brat and doesn't want anything to do with him. Can't blame him. I want some advice.