Aaaahhh The Double Standard!!!!
No secret in our household, BD13 is a straight A student and SS13 barely gets by with D's. I have blogged about this before but just had to get this new situation out there!!
Last night SS Science teacher calls to let DH know that she gave SS a referral due to his non stop talking, he was asked 3 times to stop and continued! She also let him know that he currently has a 57% in her class!!
She happens to be my BD teacher as well. BD and SS are in the exact same science class!! The other day BD turned in a paper that was not her best according to the teacher. She said it was crumbled and had doodling on it and refused to accept it and she got a zero. BD talked to me about it and said it wasn't that bad so I told her to discuss it further with teacher. ( I was surprised teacher didn't just give her a lower grade) Talk didn't go so well and teacher refused to accept it because she has higher expectations for BD!! BD asked her if she would have accepted the paper from her step brother and she said yes!!
So when teacher called DH last night she discussed the double standard! Says she felt bad for BD because she felt like BD was upset with her home life as well due to the double standard!!
I'm glad DH got to hear it from the teacher as well!! There is a double standard! SS gets away with everything because that's just the way he is!! BD has higher expectations from everyone!! I feel bad for her but I know she will be a more successful person because of it!!
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I certainly understand where
I certainly understand where you are coming from!! I deal with these types of issues everyday with SS. I just can't make him care!
I just don't understand why the teacher would admittedly accept the paper from SS and not from BD. She may have higher expectations from certain students but a crumpled doesnt constitute a zero in my mind. I think she should have marked off for the appearance. Instead she reinforced the idea of a double standard! The harder BD works the more is expected. The less SS does the less is expected.
BD has higher expectations
BD has higher expectations from everyone!! I feel bad for her but I know she will be a more successful person because of it!!
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No truer words were ever said. We did not live with my DH for almost 10 years, but my kids still saw the HUGE difference in the way SS was raised and treated as opposed to the way they were raised and treated. Back in the early teens my kids were pretty jealous of all SS got and away with. I did tell them that was too bad, I raise kids to be good adults and SS was being raised to be a spoilt person that is not going to be ready for adulthood.
My kids can laugh about it now and thank me for NOT raising them the way SS was raised. They see how he is turning out and it is not a pretty site. ALL BECAUSE OF BM AND DH. Love DH, but still amazed that he is such a bad parent.
I'm so glad to hear that your
I'm so glad to hear that your kids are thankful!! I keep telling my daughter that she will be better off in the long run!!
I too am amazed that my DH is such a bad parent. I think he expects me to do the work but yet doesn't back me. This has gone on long enough to where my only concern is my BD!!
BD is in the enriched program
BD is in the enriched program but they don't offer enriched Science here in middle school. The teacher did say that when she enters high school she should be placed in enriched.
I was pretty surprised myself to hear that she would accept crappy work from SS. I don't think that is teaching him anything!! As usual he has it easy!