I have actually been doing well myself. I have been reading a lot of info on passive aggression, which is what my SD LOVES to do. In my reading I am finding that she probably is not fully aware of most of what she does. Mostly because it is so much a part of her personality now, that she doesn't even recognize the behavior for what it is. Of course I know that I am her primary "target" and that probably has to do with her own mom issues. So, I have just been ignoring all her passive aggressive BS and directing her dad to address the issues with her instead of me. It has been working great for me I am way less stressed out and ignoring her has been so relaxing lol. I think it is driving her nuts...but I really don't care because I have to get myself to a good place again because I am not, and I need to focus on me, and my other children. So I could care less what my SD thinks or does at this point because I tried for YEARS to be there for her, and she burned me and hurt me at every turn. I could only take so much and I am done...and it feels good to know something significant that feels like it is the right thing for me and my kids.

My DH is fine with it all as well because he knows how his own daughter is, and what I have done for her through the years and how she has in turn treated me. So he understands why I am stepping away and ignoring her. He would like us to have some sort of a relationship, if she is to stay in our lives etc...I told him at this point I can't say whether I will warm up to her again or not, but if she stays consistent in her behaviors...then maybe. So far the only thing she is consistent with is her passive aggression. She needs to come to a point where she will someday realize that she does indeed need professional help and address her anger issues once and for all. If she doesn't she is in for one miserable life. More so than she already thinks she has it...because once she is out of my home....who will she make her "target" then?