Okay, so those who've read any of my recent blogs and posts should already know by now that I've been trying to separate from H for about the past month. While I've struggled to give H a firm move out date to be considerate of all that entails & how his life will be impacted after (mainly in terms of our co-parenting situation including the financial implications), I can't help but feel like the SD weekends are that much harder for me knowing I don't even want her Dad here, let alone her, and that meanwhile I am still subsidizing all of this (his living here & her visiting.)

Well, we have an added complication this weekend. One of my best friends just called me today wanting to come for a visit this weekend. She'd just experienced a domestic violence altercation in her home & wants to come here for just the weekend until she can get on a flight to her parents' house. Now my BFF lives about 90 miles away in a neighboring state & I haven't seen this friend in over 6 months. Well of course I told her to come, but I only have 1 guest room in my house & this is an SD weekend & of course SD claims that as her room when she is here. Now while I obviously don't have a problem with that normally, the fact is we are graced with SD's presence eow & she lives only about 15 miles away, so in my opinion she doesn't necessarily need to stay here overnight to visit with her Dad. On the other hand, since this is MY house & H has never chipped in a penny on the down payment, closing costs or mortgage payments, property taxes or insurance, AND almost every other accommodation for that room has been paid for solely by me (bed, tv, dvd player, even towels & soap for pete's sake!) I feel like I ultimately have the right to choose how that room is used at any given time, & this weekend (well EVERY weekend) I would prefer to host my friend's visit over SD's!

Ugh! So now the problem is that this call from my friend came too last-minute to ask H to just get SD next weekend. Of course there was no predicting my friend would get jumped on in her own home & need me the weekend & I am NOT going to refuse her my home!

What am I supposed to do now?

Well at least maybe the normal misery of an SD weekend coupled with the potential conflict regarding my Friend's visit will give me the final push I need to set a move out date for H once & for all!