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Submitted by Francesca on Fri, 12/10/2010 - 7:02pm

Two days ago SO drops off his daughter 4 to mother. She hands him a business card for a marriage and family counselor and says he has an appointment the following day at 5 pm. She says it is regarding their teen boys. She then tells him if he doesn't go the boys won't talk to him again. Knowing psycho BM I tell him to call the counselor and find out what is going on. He sends e-mail explaining how BM quit mediation (regarding divorce and custody) and is alienating children. Counselor calls and tells him the session is to help them get back together, NOT about teen boys. SO has been with me for 2 years, we live together. Has not filed divorce due to financial constraints. Now has attorney and is ready to file. BM calls and asks if he is going he tells her no, he talked to counselor. She screams that whatever happens now is his fault. Counselor tells him BM told her he kicked her and kids out of house (rented due to unemployment), counselor becomes concerned with BM's lies. No one asks why a woman would want a man back who kicked her and kids out of a house? I AM WITH OUT UNDERSTANDING......
Why, why does she not let go?
F.

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ddakan's picture

Submitted by ddakan on Fri, 12/10/2010 - 7:09pm

she's using the kids to hang on to your man. he needs to get the f-ing divorce started and let it fall out from there.

i've been with dh for 10 years, and bm is still single, still wanting him to be at her beck and call. it hurts her to see us together, blah blah blah. its not OUR freakin problem. she needs to realize he is gone and move on with her life. but, easier said than done.

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Submitted by MrsFrustrated on Fri, 12/10/2010 - 7:28pm

BM in our case has never remarried, let alone date anyone. And still calls DH to fix stuff at her house. Well, not anymore, I put my foot down and DH is not her handyman.

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Submitted by MARLA_823 on Fri, 12/10/2010 - 7:25pm

She must know he's about to file, that's why she's getting desperate. I hope the divorce isn't long and drawn out. Beee But prepare yourself, because even after it's final, I guarantee she'll still be going after your man.

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Submitted by StepDeux on Fri, 12/10/2010 - 8:49pm

She sounds like she has mental issues to me. It's not just that she's not letting go it's beyond that. He's lived with you for two years and now she wants to go to counseling? Not to mention it's ridiculous to think that any woman would actually want to get back with someone who kicked her and her kids out. Hopefully given all this, the counsler will do some type of intervention with her and say she's a hot mess. Maybe you should see if your SO can get something in writing from the counsler just to help in the future. I imagine you won't have an easy road with that one as the divorce moves forward.