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A little sad and confused right now

purpledaisies's picture

I just realized that my oldest 2 ss's unfriended me on face book. Don;t know why but they are still friends with my family just not me???? Does anyone know if that just happens sometimes b/c it doesn;t make since unless bm made them but then why would she let them still be friends with my family? :?

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purpledaisies's picture

Ok thanks I'll ask, I sent a friend request to them both so when they get home from school we will see.

The thing is we have a pretty good relationship just not with bm.

stormabruin's picture

Not sure of the relationship between you & BM, but my skids declined my friend request. I can only imagine it was at BM's indication of disapproval or encouragement just for the sake of excluding me personally. I'm sure she feels it's an opportunity for her to "out" me & throw it at me that I am, in fact, not part of their family. Perhaps it didn't matter that the rest of your family is friends with them because she feels no personal threat or offense from them.

Like I said, I don't know the relationship between you & her. I was just suggesting how I feel certain it came down between me & my skids.

Elizabeth's picture

Ha, when DH finally got around to deciding to look at SD17.5's FB page, he told her about it (moron) and she immediately blocked him and me and everyone related to us from seeing it. So NO WAY she would considering having DH as a "friend" on FB. Doesn't seem to bother him; I find it suspicious...

caregiver1127's picture

Don't feel bad my SS has blocked me from his page - like I give a shit I would not have friended him anyway - I don't friend any kids or any nephews or nieces unless they are over 25 - I have adult things on my FB and don't want to have to watch everything I say.

purpledaisies's picture

Caregiver that doesn;t bother I don't have stuff like that on mine really I use it mainly to keep in touch with my family as we are all over the usa.

caregiver1127's picture

It's not that I have dirty stuff on mine - I keep in touch with my family too but since everything has to be a secret between our family and SS's and his mother because she does this to us - we know nothing about SS or what he does in his life because BM forbids it I don't want him to know anything about our life. Also I have many friends that wish they had never allowed their younger family members to be their friends - if it bugs you ask them - it could be a glitch that has been known to happen on FB. Or it could be the BM Glitch - lol

purpledaisies's picture

good point never thought of that. thanks. I was thinking about the glitch thing and was thinking why would it do 2 like that?

RB's picture

Don't feel bad, two of my adult step daughters wanted to be my friend on Facebook, but then used it as a way of keeping track of my life, including when I was on-line. After one of the SD's got done writing about me being a bitch on my Facebook page I decided to remove her as a friend, but, since her wall is open, I see she didn't mind continuing to write that I was a bitch there as well and making fun of me. As we share many family members and friends as Facebook friends this makes me look real good in the local community which is a fairly small town. I thank her for the appreciation of me giving up my salary every month to raise her to adulthood when her real mother wanted nothing to do with her, but now they are fast friends and on Facebook as well. The oldest step daughter I went ahead and removed her as a friend as well as she is the catalyst generally for getting her sister going. I am still Facebook friends with my youngest stepdaughter (there are 3 in all with stepdaughters)as she usually behaves herself pretty well, although she was much younger than the rest of them when she came to live with me (still in elementary school)and maybe that has helped with her personality, I don't know. That is just a guess. Anyhow, I would suggest using caution with step kids on Facebook. They can get even with you in a hurry on there, even if the only thing they have on you is that you are married to their dad. Good luck with your boys and all. Hopefully, it was just a Facebook glitch. They are doing maintenance some today on Facebook.

purpledaisies's picture

No my skids aren't like that first they are boys and they aren't on very much. But I don;t post things on fb that we are doing in our lives either. I post things about how much i love my dh and stuff. If I have something that my family needs to know I send private mess. But really it doesn;t matter if she knows about it or not dh won;t let bm ruin our plans never has. she has tried but it never worked.